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Oh and Happy April Fools Day

How to survive the chaos that is the Nightclub

In my time at university, my most interesting experience is probably clubbing. Why? Because its so bizarrely hit and miss. You see, half the time I have a good night out and the other half, I absolutely hate it. It's very weird to say the least! I did make a couple of key observations onto the parts of the night out that factored into this opinion and hopefully I would offer advice to anyone, especially those with autism, on how to cope with a night out clubbing.

Since I don't drink, for reasons I have made very clear in the past, it perplexes me that the vast majority of people there get tipsy at the very least. At first I assumed that these people didn't know how to have fun but soon I discovered that they do it for a good reason: clubs are boring. It's basically about 3 hours of dancing. That's it. Eventually you'll run out of stamina and, since it's so loud (I'll get to that later) you can't strike up a conversation with someone. It gets so bad that most people have pre-drinks so that they'll already be drunk by the time they get there. Being drunk means you're unaware of the boredom that is clubbing and so you can have more fun. In that sense, clubbing is fundamentally flawed.

However, linking back to that earlier post I subtly embedded into this post, there is away around this. Very recently, I found that if you drink lemonade half-way through your clubbing experience, you'll get psyched and the stamina returns. Not to mention, lemonade is only £1 if you get it the right size. Good music helps as well and perhaps this is the biggest factor of the hit and miss nature of clubs. When the music is good, it's enjoyable. If not, prepare for boredom unless you're drunk.

Another thing to note, which has been the bane of my clubbing experience, is finding companions to go home with. If you want to go home early, be sure to go with people who are willing to do the same because otherwise, you may be stranded. You could try going home with people of your own age going to the same destination, but that's unreliable since you don't know them and you have to rely on them being desperate as well. So please make sure you have a reliable companion with you.

Another thing to note is the concept of 'pulling.' What I mean by that is snogging strangers. This may not happen (at the time of writing, it has not happened to me) but if it does, remember two things: 1) They'll be drunk so it might mean nothing, so don't get too attached. 2) If it goes further, use protection! 3) Don't expect it to happen. Most of the time it doesn't happen so if that's the case, don't feel disappointed. 4) If you're initiaiting it, make sure you get consent for reasons that will hopefully be obvious (if not, for the love of Gallifrey, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8). I know it would be harder when drunk but please keep that in mind. Or better yet, don't get drunk. It looks like a nasty experience and you'll feel like death the next morning.

I did say I would get back to noise so I will. This is especially for those with autism who doesn't like noise. Clubs will be very loud and if that puts you off, that's fine. You don't have to go and nobody has any right to pressure you otherwise. But if you choose to go and you're still concerned about noise, I'd recommend earplugs. If you're worried it'll look weird, don't worry. It's dark and people are too drunk to notice it anyway. If anything, it's better for you since it protects your ears from harm.

Oh and speaking of Autistic people's worst nightmares, it will be crowded! The solution to that problem is simple: Go somewhere where there's space! Not only will you have more room to bust your moves but it's also more comfortable and less people will bump you.

One more thing to note is that go clubbing occasionally, not regularly. Not only would it feel more rewarding and special but your finances will take a lesser hit, especially when you're in Uni. Only go when you're extremely bored of staying in all the time.

Most importantly, just have fun! That's what clubs are for anyway: to have a good time. So long as you're safe, you can have a good time. Or go to the pub... that works too. At least you'll be able to hear people.



And that concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. Did you like my advice? Is there anything else you would like to offer to this discussion? Leave a like and comment both on here and Facebook and be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' I might make this a monthly thing from now on so I can have a regular schedule but of course, I will need ideas so if there is any topics you want me to cover, I will discuss it either in a blog post or on my Joel Mole page. See you next month! Until then, fare thee well good people of the internet.

Gather round kids! It's a Thought's from an Autistic Mind Christmas Special!

Huzzah, I think it's finally time
To do this blog entirely in rhyme.
You know as it's Christmas day,
I refuse to do it another way.
So sit back, relax, whilst I'll
Do this special in another style.

So Christmas, it is truly great,
So why is it filled with so much hate?
With people stressing about presents
And those dreaded family events.
Plus, especially with this year,
There's the added lack of cheer
With wars and death and politics,
None of those we can fix.

So with everyone rushing and shouting
And pushing and pouting
All upon this Christmas season.
I think people forget the reason
Why we celebrate in December.
So I think it's time that people remember
That fateful night when Jesus was born.
(Oh yeah I probably should warn
You I'm bringing religion into this
But I do have a point! I promise!)

You see the intention of his birth
Was to redeem a broken earth
With innocence and kindness,
And most of all forgiveness
For all our wrongdoings in the past
So when we die we can at last
Go join him up beyond the sky,
And see all the angels fly.

You see where I'm going here?
I think it's time to channel that cheer.
Not just today but everyday
Don't throw that Christmas spirit away!
When 2017 arrives,
It will be a difficult year in our lives.
With Trump in power and Brexit too
I'm not sure what the future holds for you.
But remember to hold that spirit tight
And Merry Christmas to all and to all goodnight!

Breaking News: I Love Doctor Who! (*Gasp*)

Sheesh... 'Doctor Who' is 53 years old... That's impressive! And that's not the only reason I'll be gushing over this show today. 'Doctor Who' is sadly becoming less popular with a decline in viewership and everyone I know saying that 'Doctor Who' was never as good as when David Tennant was around. So... am I allowed to say that I still love this show? Even the current stuff? OK before you give your computer screen a funny look, allow me to explain.

For those of you who don't know, 'Doctor Who' is a science fiction show surrounding an alien called The Doctor who travels in a time/space travelling box called the TARDIS that is bigger on the inside than it is on the outside. Through it, The Doctor picks up human companions and takes them everywhere in time and space, battling monsters along the way. Now if that premise alone doesn't justify my love for the show I don't know what will because that is a fantastic premise! Because of the TARDIS, the writers are not restricted by setting, meaning that they can do whatever they want with the show, provided that it doesn't break the established universe (I'm looking at you Steven Moffat). The sheer imagination has inspired me to take up a career path in creative writing, particularly screenplays because I want to share my own somewhat creative ideas (no I'm not saying what they are in case they come up on TV someday). It stays fresh too as The Doctor can change his appearance and personality when near the point of death, meaning that the writers can do new things with the character.

My personal experience with the show began in March 2005, when 'Doctor Who' came back after a 16 year hiatus. Immediately I was intrigued by this show and by the season finale, I loved it and I was very sad to see Christopher Eccleston leave. Luckily, David Tennant came along and he became my Doctor. By his season, I became obsessed with the show and it never left. Even though I had to miss a few episodes because of their fear factor (I was 7 when it started after all) I still loved it and I went back to those episodes once I got older and braver. Since then I built up a collection of toys, DVDs, books and other memorabillia to create a collection so large, I couldn't take all of it with me to University.

Besides the creative premise, the reason I love this show is because I also find a role model in The Doctor himself. He is a man who is never cruel or cowardly and always finds a peaceful solution to his problems. He is caring and compassionate and he gives his enemies the benefit of the doubt before he defeats them. He never uses a weapon but he does use his intelligence and wit to save the day. In fact, Steven Moffat, whom I mentioned earlier, said this quote that summed it up better than I did:

The enemies were great too! The Daleks, The Doctor's most recurring enemies, are as iconic as The Beatles in terms of quintessential Britishness. The Cybermen, cyborgs that were once human and now want to convert other like them, are even more relevant now that they were back in the 1960s. The Weeping Angels, as scary as some of the horror classics with their great premise of statues that move when you look away or blink. And The Master, The Doctor's arch-nemesis, is a delightfully evil character. They, and thousands of more monsters keep the show entertaining and creative.

Though to me, the biggest reason why I still love the show is the impact it had on me. I already mentioned it shaping my career path but there are many other reasons as well. Without it, I would never have discovered the internet, I would have less friends since that show is what helped me form friendships with people and I would never have got into film criticism, and therefore film in general, since my love for criticism spawned from 'Doctor Who' reviews. This has made such a large impact on my life that I can't imagine myself in a world where this show never existed!

This is why I watch the show even through the questionable decisions such as including a superhero in the Christmas special, even after 'Hell Bent,' one of the most painful experiences I've been through as a Whovian, even during this year where the BBC stopped putting out content, even through a spin-off that split people down the middle, and even through Steven Moffat's lazy writing. I love the show regardless of its many flaws and trials because I know how great it was and how much of an impact it was to me. I love the characters, I love the premise, I love the imagination and I'm hopeful that the writing will improve and 'Doctor Who' will be great once more!

This concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. It's nice to be kind to something after I basically made fun of the President of the US. What did you think of this post? Do you have your own show that you just love with all of your heart? Comment below and as always, please like my Facebook page Joel Mole, share this around the internet and tell me what you like and dislike about this (though be civil, I'm allergic to trolls). See you next time whenever that may be. Until then, fair thee well good people of the internet.

From left to right: William Hartnell (Doctor #1), Patrick Troughton (Doctor #2), Jon Pertwee (Doctor #3), Tom Baker (Doctor #4), Christopher Eccleston (Doctor #9), Matt Smith (Doctor #11), Peter Capaldi (Doctor #12), David Tennant (Doctor #10), John Hurt (Doctor #8.5), Paul McGann (Doctor #8), Sylvester McCoy (Doctor #7), Colin Baker (Doctor #6), Peter Davison (Doctor #5)

Joel Mole's Guide to Surviving Trump's America

America has currently joined the UK as one of the most idiotic countries in the World. This is because Donald Trump, a racist, homophobic sex offender, has now become president of the United States of America. Of course this raises questions of the mental state of a supposedly great country but what's done is done and now, for any American readers out there, I present to you a survival guide into how to survive Trump's America with my limited political knowledge.

Seek out the Clinton voters
Clearly not everyone voted for Trump so that means that those who have voted Clinton either a) actually supported her or b) doesn't want Trump to become president. Now Clinton wasn't much better than Trump with her shady ties but she at least doesn't judge and those who voted her likely won't judge either. Seek them out and you will find solidarity

Find another Martin Luther King Jr.
Trump is a racist gimboid so it's very likely that the ethnic minorities (or should I say majorities) will be cowering in fear of Trump's reign of terror. Now, I know that there is already a civil rights movement but it needs to be stronger than ever so it needs another peaceful leader like Martin Luther King Jr. was in the past in order to convince Trump the error of his ways. After all, it's not like the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Yet to Come won't do it.

Get nuclear bunkers
With Trump's mentality, World War Three could be on the horizon so make sure you get a nuclear bunker so that you can be safe during a nuclear apocalypse. There are other websites which explain how to survive an apocalypse so I recommend you check those out for more details

Drink
I normally don't condone this but mate, you need booze for this so you can wallow in misery and wonder where America went wrong

American Suffragette
Trump hates women so feminism is more important than ever and we need a third (or fourth?) wave of feminism to make sure that women's rights change for the better and to show women that Trump must be stopped. If successful, half of America would be against Trump.

LGBT Movement
I hope you follow the footsteps of women and ethnic majorities and start your own movement against Trump's regime. Who knows, you three can unite and you, plus sympathizers, could rise for change.

Move to Canada
Perhaps the most realistic and most sensible option. Sure it's cold but the people are so friendly it's a stereotype, the economy is strong, healthcare is fair, it's very eco-friendly and it's created many great celebrities such as:

• Jim Carrey
• Michael J. Fox
• Ryan Gosling
• Michael Bubble (I mean Bublé)
• Mike Myers 
• William Shatner
• Dan Akroyd
• Céline Dion
• Avril Lavigne
• Ryan Reynolds
• Donald Sutherland 
• Carrie-Ann Moss
• Keanu Reeves
• Evageline Lilly
• Seth Rogen

Sure it also created Justin Bieber but Canada had the sense to not accept him back after he moved to America. So long as you have money, people you know and knowledge on Canada you should be fine.

I hope you found this useful (though I'd be surprised if you did). If not, then at least you can appreciate the satirical presentation at my views of Trump becoming president. In all seriousness, to all the women, LGBT people, ethnic majorities and people with common sense: good luck. I'm sure other countries will support you.

This concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. Now I'm not an expert on politics and I'm sure people more qualified than me can share their thoughts in a better format. I just wanted to present a lighthearted piece of satire whilst simultaneously sharing my views on Trump becoming president. I hope you enjoy it and if there are movements against Trump, great! Best of luck to you! Now for the obligatory plug. Be sure to share this blog around and like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' Also be sure to use the page to suggest ideas on what I give my thoughts on because I need that motivation people! Until then, fair thee well good people of the internet.

What is love (baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me no more)

Well... This year has been a bit pants so far hasn't it? I mean so far we've had almost daily attacks (mainly from ISIS) in all sorts of countries, lots of respected celebrities have died, Britain has left the EU putting the country's economic future and reputation in doubt and people have been very nasty to each other whether it's to do with Trump (whom I have a horrible feeling is going to be president) or the flippin ghostbusters movie!

All this hatred going on in the world has made me wonder: has humanity forgotten about love? It doesn't   seem to be the case since most people, particularly the LGBT community, have stood up against hatred, but there's lots of hatred to begin with. Perhaps we need to be reminded that love, not war or hatred, is a far better option.

What do I consider love to be? In it's basic form, love is the undying affection you give to another person. Whether it's through kindness, romance or platonic love like the kind you give to your friends and family. Love, in my eyes, is shown through unity in some form. For instance, platonic love ensures unity between family and friends and in it's highest form, you cherish and are willing to stand up for them. Romantic love is unity between two people with a deep affection between them and in it's highest form, the partners become like one and are inseparable.

For me, what separates love from a simple desire or an infatuation is the nobility of it. Desire from my point of view, is wanting something desperately that you know isn't going to last forever whether it's an object or sex. Love however is the assurance that whoever your with will be a good part of your life forever. It's feeling comfortable towards them rather than craving them. It's needing them instead of wanting them. And it's friendly, not obsessive.

Now this might make no sense and I'd understand that. Love is an abstract concept and as someone with autism who doesn't know an awful lot about human interaction, I may be wrong about this. But, to paraphrase Forrest Gump: "I may be autistic but I know what love is." And honestly, at this stage, I appear to know about it more than most people. Lemme put it this way: if someone like me, who doesn't entirely know about love, understands it more than those people, then humanity needs to get their act together.

That concludes this Thought from an Autistic Mind. This was tricky since love is an abstract concept which I don't wholly understand. I just wanted to give my unique views on love and to bring up this topic in a time where it couldn't be more important. Lemme know what you thought on my views. Perhaps you could share your ideas on what love is, I'd be interested to hear a second opinion. As always, be sure to follow me on Facebook and Google+ (both under the name Joel Mole) and be sure to send this to as many people as possible. As always fair thee well and see you in [insert date here].

Help! My child has autism! (Autism awareness day special)

Happy autism awareness day/month everyone! Yes it is so obscure that even I forgot it existed (ironic that there's a lack of awareness for autism awareness day). We should make an effort to make it stand out more since autism can be an issue if the person with autism is not cared for. Which brings me to my next point: what do you do if your child has autism?

I'm going to come out and say it: I'm not a parent and I'm not planning to have any children any time soon. This blog is coming from the point of view of someone who WAS the autistic child. First things first, don't panic! They are still your child so they'll still love you and vice versa. Secondly, if you haven't done so already, get them diagnosed as soon as possible just to be sure. Thirdly, if they seem secluded, that's fine, they're just off in their own little world minding their own business; just let them do that unless they need to concentrate for an important reason. If they get distressed and you don't know why, it's probably because something has happened that has affected their routine or little world  and if that's the case don't worry, just be patient and they'll calm down.

Another important thing is to send them to an autism friendly school so they'll be cared for by experts who know how to care for autistic people. Another important thing is to help them understand the world and the neurotypical people in it. That way, they'll eventually learn how to interact with people better. It may be ideal to help the people around you, including the child themselves, understand autism so that they can understand why the child seems different.

It's ideal to help them build a social life. Of course if they're happy being alone that's fine but you need to teach them valuable social skills in order for them to interact with people better and they can make friends on their own. Don't force friends on them if you're worried about their loneliness and just guide them into making friends on their own.

That's really all I got. Like I said, I'm not a parent so I'm a little unsure myself what would I do if I had an autistic child but I'm giving this advice because whatever my parents did to make me the man I am now must have been effective or else, I probably wouldn't be doing this blog to help others like me or those who know people like me. One thing's for sure though, that child would love you until the end of time, even if they don't show it because they may not know how, so I'm sure, whoever you are in this situation, that you will love them too.


And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. Seeing as this is the first one to be written on an iPhone (my laptop was broken by my own stupidity) there would have been typos so please point out any mistakes in the comments below. Also on a side note, maybe talk to some parents of autistic people, see what they suggest since they're probably more qualified to deal with this topic than me. Let me know what you thought of this blog in the comments below, like the Facebook page 'Joel Mole' and share this across the internet! Until the next time, fair thee well!

Masculinity: I'd rather be feminine!

Feminism... it's really misunderstood. The movement to promote gender equality has now been perceived as a movement designed to prevent oppression on women. It's a fair assumption since women are generally more oppressed than men and there are gigantic twonks out there who do oppress and harm women. Make no mistake, female subordination is a huge issue but radical and other feminists who have warped the idea are forgetting one thing: what about men? We have our own problems too you know! Admittedly we have less problems than women but I want to address certain injustices that men face as well, particularly the concept of masculinity.

The concept of masculinity is that men are expected to be strong, brave and not the least bit vulnerable. Of course men are socialised to not be complete sissys and to 'act like a man' and be tough in the face of it all. This... irks me. I myself was expected to act tough and cool, especially in secondary school where, in the early years at least, I was told not to cry so I can be accepted. Now, crying is such a rarity in me. I keep my pain within or regressed to screams when I am physically hurt and in terms of emotional damage, very few things make me cry. I never cry in movies where I should and in sad situations, I do cry sometimes when it's really damaging but most of the time the tears never come. Where are you tears??? Where the smeg are you????

I doubt it's just me because I've never really seen a grown man cry in real life. At least not to my memory. I expect it’s because we're expected not to cry and to act brave in the face of turmoil. Women are the only gender who are meant to cry apparently and men who cry are passed off as cry-babies. I'm sorry but I can't stand that! I want to be able to cry and not feel ashamed in doing so! I want to feel scared of things without being labelled a wuss! I'm not manly, I'm me! So let me be me society!!!

The concept of manliness has led to a lack of knowledge of serious issues. For example, domestic abuse is the biggest form of oppression towards women as they are violently attacked and intimidated to the point of emotional scarring. That is a huge problem but it's not one way. Men get attacked and abused too. Most recently, YouTuber Matthew Santoro released his story of abuse on YouTube and it got me thinking, why don't men get recognised as victims too? Then I cast my mind back to sociology and crime statistics, particularly in terms of domestic violence. The main reason why men don't get recognised as victims of domestic is likely because of the fact that they're too ashamed to admit they are attacked by a woman which is considered to be a damage to their masculinity. Men, as well as women, should be recognised for those things!

It's not just masculine behaviour, the masculine image can be damaging to a man's self-esteem. Casting back to my 'Models are Clones' blog post, I noted how the 'perfect image' can give people unrealistic expectations on what they should look like. The same applies to men as they are expected to have lots of muscles and a 'boy-band' complexion. It is often men who fit that description who are seen as desirable and not all men in general. 

I suppose that's why I relate to women more than men. Don't get me wrong, I know a lot of great men and boys but I prefer the company of women because they are free to be honest with their emotions whereas men just try to act 'cool' when really it can be a mask. The men I relate with are more open with their emotions and are not as 'manly' as stereotypes suggest. I myself have some feminine traits like in my taste of music (I like Taylor Swift and Lana Del Rey rather than rap and heavy metal music), my choice in films (I like manly films like Mad Max: Fury Road but I also enjoy rom-coms like Love Actually) and my emotions despite the lack of tears (such as fear). Apparently I also used to play with Barbies as well during my Pre-Doctor Who days.

Really, the people are not entirely masculine or feminine. A nice hybrid of the two makes them more relatable and trustworthy because they are open with their feelings. Back to the issue at hand, I wish masculinity would just die because boys and men shouldn't just be tough, they should be emotional too and be allowed to like things such as Disney Princesses (another thing I like). Most importantly, they should be seen in issues such as domestic violence and they shouldn't hide because of their masculinity. Sometimes men have to let it out...

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

Why the Syrian air strike is a stupid decision

Well you did it didn't you! You must be so proud of yourselves government! You have no idea what you lot have unleashed have you! Look I get that you don't read my blogs, only once did a post break the 100 view mark, but this is common sense!!! Buckle up people, this is not going to be a fun post.

As many of you saw on the news, the majority of MP's voted to bomb parts of Syria following the Paris attacks. This is a stupid decision! I understand why, they're scared, we all are but did you have to let fear get to your heads? Did you not stop to think about the consequences of bombing parts of a country???

Firstly, this is obviously going to start a war. ISIS aren't exactly going to look sheepish and say "we're sorry!" Of course not! They're likely to bomb London much like what they did in Paris and hey, it might be a worse attacks. So innocent people in the UK are at risk because of YOUR decision!

It's not just the UK, like that Doctor Who quote said "you have no idea who's going to die!" Syria doesn't just contain ISIS, It contains hundreds of thousands of innocent men, women and children, who are already terrified since they risk their lives in leaving that hellish place. You're just making them more terrified by bombing them! That is, those who survive because we all know that during an air strike like that, at least one innocent person will die. Who knows? It could even be a child! If you do that, then technically you could be doing worse to Syria than what ISIS did to Paris.

I doubt this will be the first time, if other countries join you (which they no doubt will), then we may have a third world war on our hands. If you thought the first two world wars were bad, because of the rise in technology means that nuclear weapons and God knows what else would be among the weapons we have! You know what that means! More people will die because of this!!!!

Now I know what you're thinking, "we can't do nothing after an attack like that." Now that's true since another attack seems inevitable but here's what I would've done. I would've increased security and defences in the UK to make sure this doesn't happen to us and I'm sure other countries, especially Paris, would do the same.

You know what I'm furious! The UK government made a huge mistake in striking back and honestly, I'm starting to lose faith in this country because there are some people who believe this is a GOOD thing! Please just ignore your patriotism or paranoia for one minute to see what an idiotic thing the government has done. If you still think it just please tell me why!!! Otherwise if people think that retaliation is better than turning the other cheek, then I don't want to live in this country anymore... (That is figurative, there is too many to leave behind for me to leave plus it's expensive)

To sign off, I'm going to put that Doctor Who quote up again and please pay attention to it! 

"When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die! You don't know whose children are going to scream and burn; how many hearts will be broken; how many lives shattered; how much blood will spill before everybody does what they were always going to have to do from the very beginning! SIT. DOWN. AND TALK!" 

#keepthepeace

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

The Paris Attacks and Migration: Why people need to calm down!

As those of you who aren't living under a rock know, on Friday 13th November 2015, Paris was attacked through a series of bombings and shootings by the terrorist group known as ISIS. At least 120 people were killed. This is a horrific event and I'm glad people are showing their support. However what I'm talking about is the reactions people had. Building on this, it's about time I addressed the migrant crisis and people's attitude towards non-British people.

In talking about the reactions, most of which has been positive with numerous buildings being illuminated in the tricolour in tribute to Paris and I commend them for that. However in the Internet things are different, particularly when it comes to what they have to say about ISIS. Now ISIS are a truly despicable group and I, like many people, are baffled at their horribly misguided judgements on humanity. But that does not excuse people judging all Muslims and Syrians by what one splinter group has done. Seriously, thanks to the media, Muslims have a pretty bad name right now because of the actions of ISIS and Al-Qaeda. Just because one or two splinter groups do terrible things doesn't mean all Muslims are like this. In fact, most Muslims are lovely because the Qur'an says they should care for humanity:

"Whoever kills an innocent person, it is as if he has killed all of humanity"

- Qur'an 5:32

See what I mean? ISIS and Al-Qaeda aren't Muslims. They're wackos who believe that their actions please Allah whereas it will likely shame him.

I should point out that it has turned more people against Syrian migrants in fear of anyone of them being a terrorist. Ok I'm just going to say this but to those right-wing people who believe that migrants are a swarm or something along those lines: shut up. They're people for crying out loud and most of them are innocent civilians who are desperate to find safety because life in Syria is basically Hell. Besides, migrants can be beneficial because they boost the economy by taking the jobs no-one wants. "But they're taking our jobs" you may say, well do you want to work in a newsagents? Or be a cleaner? Or handpick butternut squash (a job that I've seen in a documentary about migration)? Thought not. Honestly, if you assume that all migrants are terrorists or that they're taking over the country then frankly, stop believing a word UKIP says, they base their views on false statistics anyway.

Another worrying response goes something like this: "Fight back against these terrorist pieces of scum! Let's go to war against them!" Ok I may be paraphrasing but you get the idea. In fairness that is a natural response, you're angry at ISIS for what they've done I get that. But can you actually use your brain and think about the negatives of war (of which there are many)? Because OF COURSE it is a good idea to send your loved ones off to fight in a war in which they are likely to die in (!). Seriously? Have you guys learned NOTHING from WW1, WW2, and Afghanistan? If you seriously believe that war is the best option, try telling what I've said above to families whose father or older brother died in battle. I'm sure they'll be happy to hear you say that (!). Honestly, war isn't even the best option. I think the Doctor Who episode 'The Zygon Inversion' (which drew parallels to ISIS) said it best during Peter Capaldi's speech near the end:

 "It's always the same. When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die! You don't know whose children are going to scream and burn; how many hearts will be broken; how many lives shattered; how much blood will spill before everybody does what they were always going to have to do from the very beginning! SIT. DOWN. AND TALK!" 

- Peter Capaldi as the Twelfth Doctor

War always ends by talking so why not cut out the middle man? My point is that yes, ISIS are evil, but you can't get angry at all the Syrians and all the Muslims for the actions of the splinter group. Heck even anger at the splinter group will cause more harm than good! What happened in Paris was terrible yes but we need to keep it together! Anger and paranoia is exactly what ISIS want but we need to stand strong and retain our respect towards humanity rather than be racist towards migrants and Muslims.

To everyone against migration and ISIS, especially the government if they actually read this: just calm down please! Find the right solution to these things, forgive them even, just for goodness sakes, don't start a war! Or else what happened in Paris will happen everywhere. 

#keepthepeace

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

Halloween is EEEEEEEEEEEEVIL!

Ah Halloween! Such a lovely holiday celebrating all things evil and scary! Seriously, why are we celebrating this again? It went from the eve to a Christian feast (to my knowledge) to a celebration involving the flipping Devil! I don't get it! Why does Halloween have to be so scary? And could it be that what you're celebrating is actually dodgy? Well I'm here to tell you why I don't like the current form of All Hallows Eve.

Firstly, the monsters. Why would you allow kids to dress up as terrifying contraptions such as Dracula and Zombies? That's going to scare the living daylights out of people! It's actually kind of unpleasant to look at, seeing children dressed as their nightmares! Also, as a Christian, I'm kind of uncomfortable with the fact that Witches and the DEVIL are available costumes! I mean people flipped out when Asda and Tesco were selling mental patient Halloween costumes so why aren't they freaking out at costumes that seem to promote Witchcraft and Satanism! I mean at least Dracula and Frankenstein's monster were fictional characters but Witches and Satan as costumes is messed up!

Secondly, the very idea of Trick or Treating is just dumb. So you mean to tell me that, even though it is discouraged 364 other days of the year, kids can go up to strangers houses and ask for sweets. Does that not sound wrong to you? Not to mention, not all of them are with adults so essentially, they're walking in the dark, unprotected and visiting strangers! To the parents of those children: ARE YOU INSANE??? If you have to let your kids go Trick or Treating then at least go with them! I'd be worried sick if I was their parent. Not to mention, the people giving away the sweets may be terrified of the costumes as some of them can be based off horror movies that even I (at the age of 17) aren't allowed to watch. For example, I remember one year, one kid dressed up as the killer from Scream!

Building on that, the phrase 'Trick or Treat' is essentially blackmail. It means "Give us your sweets or we'll play a trick on you!" That's a bit mean. Heck in context Trick or Treating doesn't make sense. Its origins suggested that 'Trick-or-Treaters' asked for food in exchange for poems and the reason why they dressed up as nasty things was because they were impersonating them to scare them off. Ok firstly, where does the trick come from? Secondly, the idea of dressing up came from an outdated superstition and I thought a science based society has grown beyond that and lastly, if people dress up to protect themselves from whoever they dress up as THEN WHY THE FLYING DALEK DO THEY DRESS UP AS FICTIONAL CHARACTERS?!!

Yeesh the traditions of this holiday do not make much sense! Another odd thing is, people use that time to gain sweets and dress up... can't you do that at any other point in the year? There's thousands of conventions that encourage cosplay and even more sweet shops! There's nothing stopping you from doing it all year round! Same with watching horror films! I wouldn't recommend it unless you like scary and messed up things but won't it have the same effect all year round (provided you watch them at dark)? And don't say "You'll have the full effect at the scariest day of the year" because you just trained yourself to be scared on Halloween!

In breaking down this holiday, it's nasty, it's dodgy and it makes little sense. So why do we celebrate it? Well my guess is that human beings like being scared so they celebrate that love for fear with the All Hallows Eve origins as an excuse. Would I ever celebrate it? Maybe but I would take out all things scary and prove that Halloween can be nice. After all, its origins came from the eve of All Saints Day which is a celebration of all things good rather than all things evil. Happy All Hallows Eve everyone!

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

How to have fun without getting drunk/high

There's a strange assumption that in order to have more fun, you have to drink alcohol or worse, get high. Ok why? Has it become impossible to have fun in those ways? I know kid’s parties have neither of those things and they're still entertaining! So why do people love using these products so much? I probably won't answer that question because I never tried either of those things but I can say why they DON'T do the things they promise. 

Firstly there's alcohol. Now why something as potentially deadly as alcohol is sold in bars and shops is beyond me but a lot of adult parties, particularly young adult, seem to use this substance a lot. I guess it's to help you let loose but can't you do that anyway? And if you can't, why are you at the party? This is clearly the wrong environment for you! Also, over-drinking, as you should know, can lead to stupid decisions such as possibly having unprotected sex with strangers and sending incriminating messages and photos online. Parties like these can get out of hand and really, the bad side can dissipate when there's no alcohol involved. Why do people even like that stuff anyway? It doesn't taste that nice (yes I've had bits of it at home/communion) and it's really bad for you! I just stick to lemonade and the master of all drinks: Fanta. Now obviously it's illegal for people to sell alcohol to people under 18 but that doesn't stop rebellious teenagers from finding loopholes (Which I don't get. The more you wait, surely the more satisfying it would be when you finally have it)! Besides, I gather that hangovers must suuuuuuck!

Then there's drugs... ho boy this is going to be tricky to tackle. People have found excuses for Class C/B/A drugs such as calming the nerves, loosening people up, having a good time and being at one with nature (*cough* hippies *cough*). Firstly, there are other ways to calm your nerves (e.g. music) and sometimes it can make your mood worse. Secondly, as I've mentioned already, you can loosen up on your own, you just need confidence from your peers. Thirdly, taking drugs just increases the chances of having a BAD time so don't take it for that. Finally, if you want to be one with nature then go outside and just take in the environment around you! You don't need to do that!

It perplexes me that some people think that you need a key of some sort in order to have fun. Guys there's no ritual, there's no rite of passage, just have fun! Now if you want to have alcohol during parties, that's fine (if you're over 18) so long as you don't drink too much. If you want to take drugs to have fun then to that I say Shaaaaaaaaaame. However, if you do fit into the latter category then I wish you the best of luck of getting out of it. As for me, I just drink my Fanta and have fun not because I'm drunk or high, but because of how great the party is.

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

BANG! AHHHHH! (I hate loud noises)

I've noticed I haven't actually done anything about autism for a while. Don't get me wrong, I like saying what I think about society but it's about time I taught you something else. Namely, how much I hate loud noises. In fact, I'm terrified of them!

These range from balloons popping, small explosions, gunfire, lightning, champagne corks, fire alarms, jump scares in horror films etc. All of these things give me the heebie jeebies and they pretty much sum up all of my fears. The reason why this is, I think is because of how much it disturbs the peace. There I am, happy in my own little world and then BANG! Something shocks me out of it whether it's a balloon at a party or a fire alarm in lessons, it just catches me by surprise.

Yet the odd thing is, I fear them the most when I expect them. This is definitely the case with balloons, especially with little kids because they have a greater chance of popping. I think it's because that loud noises scare me so much, I dread them when they come. Much like how an arachnophobics is scared that a spider is going to get them or something. This is the same for horror movies (especially since jump scares are apparently more common in them) and pantomimes (because the Fairy Godmother loves to summon explosions for some reason). 

You know once upon a time, any loud noises distressed me. I used to go around wearing earmuffs for crying out loud! (They didn't work but hey ho!). Whilst it isn't as severe now it was a huge problem because like I said, it disturbed my peace and quiet and I didn't like it. In fact longer loud noises still stress me out, such as babies and kids screaming around.

I doubt I'm alone in this. Not that I know whether or not this is true but I'm sure other autistic people hate loud noises as much as I do. Perhaps they hate it even more depending on where they are in the spectrum! Regardless it's always been a thing that has distressed me and I'm sure people like me. Speaking of people like me...

How can you help people like me? - If such loud noises or loud environments occur, find a 'happy place' for them. I suggest you find a quiet room away from all the noise with lighting and music appropriate to their needs. Alternatively, if it’s in a theatre or a party, take them outside or give them earplugs (something far more effective that earmuffs) so they can be less distressed about the noise. Also don't tell them when a loud bang is coming, surprise is better than dread in my experience. However if they know it's coming and get distressed about it, tell them to cover their ears and close their eyes or even leave the area for a quieter place (as mentioned above). 

Overall, loud noises suck for us autistic people but it is avoidable so long as you know where to go and what to do.

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

Duckface: Deconstructing the selfie

There's this weird trend where people, for some reason, spontaneously take photos of themselves with their phones at any random occasion be they in a party, a public area or even at home. This, as many of you know, is a selfie. Pretty much everyone with a smartphone (which is pretty much everyone who is remotely wealthy) take 'selfies' for some strange reason and I thought "hey, since my brain is different and I don't understand this new trend, why don't I point out all the things wrong with it?" which is what I did and here we are!

Firstly, the name is stupid. Selfie is something that a toddler would say when they talk about themselves. The name alone makes a mostly harmless trend into something completely ridiculous! It's like when you're hurt and you say 'ouchie.' It just makes you sound like a three year old!

Secondly, the framing. This doesn't matter as much for one person since you can easily get them into the picture but for a crowd? There's no way you can get an entire crowd of people or the background into one tiny little phone picture. At least, without a stick (more on that later). Actually I take that back, you have to have steady hands in order to get it into the frame right. If your hands shake then the picture would just look odd.

Thirdly, the selfie stick is actually impractical. They do fit in more people but when used in public (which is where it is mostly used), they get in the way. People might get hit if it's wiggled around and during a thunderstorm... well let's just say they'll go the way of Benjamin Franklin if they're not careful.

Fourthly, the pictures themselves are mixed. Most of them, to be fair, are actually pretty good but there are two things that niggle me. Firstly, why do people pout (or duckface as I call it)? It doesn't look attractive, it makes them look vain and up themselves and it makes you look like a duck or Greedo from Star Wars thus making it look silly! The second niggle are the use of filters. It makes the picture look better but it does so artificially. It's like another shade of make-up, it just hides who the person is and it sometimes feels needless as the person already looks beautiful! (Refer to this for my further thoughts on this).

Fifthly, people overdo it! It's fine at home and in parties since the environment calls for one but in public places? A) Why can't you take a normal photo, the framing will be better and the camera shy people will be off the hook and B) if it's a place like a cinema or a formal occasion, why do it at all? That's really inappropriate!

Lastly, why is it so ingrained to our culture? It's used in films, TV shows (including Doctor Who, I'm sad to say), and songs. There are even TV shows and songs ABOUT selfies such as the TV show 'Selfie' starring Karen Gillan and the song #selfie by the Chainsmokers (the latter of which shows everything wrong with youth culture). The longevity of the show (that being one season) sums up my main problem with selfies. It ain't gonna last forever folks!

Since it's so ingrained in our culture, I'm worried that when the trend dies, the pop culture references to selfies will instantly be dated. That and people will look back at them and see how stupid some of them looked. Also, will the next generation know about selfies? How should I know? I can't predict the future! But maybe the trend will die then... I know walkmans have died out and become a relic of the past. Maybe it will... we keep evolving through trends in fashion and technology and maybe it will be the case where phones will no longer exists and technology will evolve beyond that! Who knows?

Selfies are harmless and the pictures themselves aren't all that bad. But it isn't that huge a deal and there are so many problems with it that I'm confused as to why it's so popular. Maybe I'm missing something but the selfie is a flawed trend that probably won't last forever.

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

Music is the rhythm of the night (The night! Oh yeah! The Rhythm of the night!)

You know I think it's time I did something positive for once! One of my favourite things in life, besides film, is music. I don't quite know why but certain melodies just hit me right in the feels. Well certain types of music... ok I'll explain.

Like many people, I have my own taste in music. In my case, my favourite genre of music is classical or instrumental. I'm guessing that's because, with no lyrics to tell you how to feel, I can just experience these emotions for myself. In the Hall of the Mountain King for example is very grand and epic whilst Canon in D is very soothing and relaxing (and I'm not ashamed to say that I imagine myself playing the violin when hearing that even though I can't play it). Even though I won't remember nor name all of it, I will feel calm whenever I hear it.

However my favourite artist is Daft Punk. It has similar reasons as to why I love classical music as it makes me feel calm and relaxed but it does it in its own way. Since I don't consider myself 'normal', I'm a sucker for the weird and wonderful and Daft Punk can be described as exactly that. The fact that they dress up as robots coupled with synth, sci-fi style music makes them weird yet I am drawn into their own little world!

In fact I love instrumental music so much that a part of me wants to make my own. I'm guessing, like most musicians, it's because I have certain emotions that I cannot release in any other way but sadly, unlike those musicians, I cannot play a single instrument (mostly because of patience). But when I can release them, boy is it emotionally fulfilling!

I don't mind current pop music so long as it's either fun or memorable for the right reasons as I do enjoy the likes of Taylor Swift and Lana Del Rey. However, that doesn't mean that I like all types of music as I don't like R & B for their song content, country music for their age specific style and slow music like Sam Smith for being boring. But I understand the love for them because everyone has their tastes.

But back to music making you feel calm. I'd imagine that other autistic people, like me, feel calm when they listen to their favourite music. I remember liking 'We all stand together' by Paul McCartney from Rupert Bear a lot because that calmed me down no matter how I felt. My guess is, like Daft Punk and classical music today, it just draws me in to another world entirely and it helps me escape the difficult nature of reality.

Maybe that's one way to calm an autistic child. If they are distressed, have them listen to calm and soothing music to see how they would react. Maybe they enjoy the same method of escapism as I do. Maybe as they get older they can learn to play an instrument (if they have the patience to) as they can channel their emotions through said instrument. Whatever it is, music is great and everyone, autistic or otherwise, should listen to it at some point in their lives.


And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

The Models Are Clones!!!!!

Have you ever noticed that in adverts for fashion, beauty products and so forth, the people in them fit the following description: skinny, blonde or brunette, mostly white and in their 20s? I don't get it. This planet has 7 billion people in it so why get people who always fit that description? What about people of different ethnicities, hair colour and ages? There is an explanation but that explanation has a lot of flaws. Could this be that television is full of people so alike they're practically clones?

The explanation is simple, we as humans have a concept of beauty and what is deemed beautiful can vary. At the moment, beauty is currently defined by what I've said above. This could be because we all need to agree on what is beautiful and this sort of thing makes sense. However, the problem is its effect on others.

For some, this lowers self-esteem as they deem themselves too fat or too spotty to be beautiful. This wouldn't be so bad if they weren't encouraged to be beautiful or mocked for their 'ugliness'. But this is a world where some people somehow feel entitled to say what they think and, possibly because of these adverts and other sources, feel like they can bully others based on their appearance. For those people: shut up you shallow nerfherders! Nothing gives you the right to lower a person's self esteem like that!!!!

This can get to extremes such as fasting just to get skinny which can lead to anorexia, depression for their 'lack of beauty' and surgery to make themselves look 'perfect.' The latter of which I've noticed celebrities do such as plastic surgery, liposuction, breast implants etc which alters their appearance so much they're hardly the person they once were (I'm looking at you Michael Jackson!).

This can fall into subtle things as well like make-up. Make-up always confuses me because it's like wearing a mask. Sure it looks pretty but it hides the real them. This is why I like it when women are more natural because they aren't afraid to show who they are and women who wear too much make-up look like Barbie.

Speaking of Barbie, I HATE dolls! Not just because the older ones are creepy but also because the newer ones send a bad message to children. Bratz especially teach girls that ugly people are bad and that you should focus your efforts on looks and fashion. This is... just... I.... WHAT??? I'm sorry but the media ticks me off sometimes! Celebrities, models and even flipping TOYS seem to say that anything other than skinny with occasionally big breasts and buttocks is perfect and anything else is not normal (oh for Pete's sake, this again?!)

It's not just girls, guys are expected to be muscly with stylised hair and again, go to extremes to get that far. Some guys (and people in general) only exercise to be in peak physical condition so that they would be beautiful. Some even go to Schwarzenegger levels of bodybuilding. Also 'creeps' are often associated to being bespectacled, spotty and greasy complete with braces. Some people who fit that description can be lovely and vice versa the models can be creepy. Eesh!

As an autistic, I actually don't get why there is a set view on what is beautiful and I'm sure other people like me are confused as to why others are put off by their appearance (if that is the case). In my eyes, personality makes the person. If they are physically attractive but horrible then they look like the Wicked Witch of the West to me but vice versa if they are quite plain looking but absolutely lovely then they are truly beautiful. I don't need to be told what is beautiful, I just need to find out for myself thank you. So media, next time you show something with one your clones in it, remember to consider this: other people want their chance, give it to them!

I'll end with a quote from Doctor Who's 'The Girl Who Waited' to sum up my views: "You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick. Then there's other people, and you meet them and think, 'not bad, they're okay'. And then you get to know them, and their face just sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it. And they just turn into something so beautiful."

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

GIRL ALERT!: The awkward aspects to courting and dating

DISCLAIMER: Please note that I'm primarily referring to males here since I am one myself and I don't have much of a clue how women are in this kind of thing. However, I'm not ruling women out as this can just as easily apply to them whilst also giving a good insight as to how an awkward guy like me functions in the dating game. Also these are MY experiences since I'm not psychic therefore I do not fully understand how other people behave though I will address it.

When it comes to courting and dating , guys can act very differently. They can be confident, they can be creepy, they can be obsessed they can be awkward and shy or they are either  not keen or they cannot understand the concept of dating. I fit into the awkward category as I'm sure lots of other people like me are (autistic or otherwise).

Because of this, I am pretty inexperienced when it comes to the actual dating part as I was and still am too shy to admit to liking a girl. I have done in the past but that was only once or twice. It's actually weird since I have varying degrees of confidence when it comes to fessing up my feelings to someone. This is based on how likely the person I like is likely to say yes. If they are out of my league, I am likely to be rendered speechless since they are too amazing for me and they are the most likely kind of girl to say no. Thus, I will be too shy to even talk to them. On the flip-side, If I know someone well and actually have a lot of common with them, I build more confidence because I can actually see us together. But then again, it depends on my confidence alone.

Because I'm shy, not only will I be unable to tell the person I like that I like them, but also almost everyone else. This is because they are likely to tell said person without my permission which will lead to embarrassing situations (as it has done in the past numerous times). These moments are embarrassing yet strangely enough, my mind is conflicted because a part of me wanted them to know.

Then there's the issue of actually dating and I'll talk about awkward people (including women) in general because like I said, I'm not too experienced so this is purely a theory based on what I've seen in reality and media. Usually there are a lot of obstacles that an awkward person will experience whilst dating. This includes the first date (which is awkward for everyone to be fair) where guy like me without sufficient conversation skills and the habit of daydreaming may suffer awkward silences. Then there's physical contact such as kissing, hugging and sexual activity. Honestly physical contact depends on the person. They either want to jump straight into the physical stuff or take it slow and gradually start to do these things. I'm sort of in the latter...ish. Whilst I am a hugger and open to kissing (provided that the other person is willing), sex is nerve wracking to me and I'll likely never do it until I get married (as other sensible people do).

Like I said though, this is only my experience as well as people similar to me. Other people are lucky enough to be confidant (and at times TOO confident which worries me) whilst some other people prefer to be single (which is great, more power to you!). As for me and others like me, well, It's time to bring back a certain section:

How can you help people like me? (This is for the awkward people who aren't confident) - Give them reason to be confident. Like RPG games such as World of Warcraft, experience hopefully builds strength and confidence so they will be less nervous. During the dating game, give them advice on how to sail through it without causing many arguments and premature break-ups. During a break-up (a tough time for many) console them, let them be sad but at the same time remind them on what they still have.

Dating still continues to fascinate me with its complexities and numerous stages on how to establish and maintain a relationship as well as how to cope once that relationship is over. There are also some puzzling questions such as why men are expected to ask out women instead of the other way around and why most women prefer older men/why most men prefer younger women. Oh well, I'm sure you audience members have the answer.

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 

Sports: It's just a game guys!!!

Now before I say anything I will say this. I completely understand the appeal of sports. It's a bit of fun that helps develop a lot of skills as well as improving your physical appearance and health. I also understand if people take it seriously as a life choice (as I know some people who do). Good for them, so long as you're good at it and work hard at it it's fine by me. My problem is when people take it too seriously.

Now this applies to a lot of things such as movies and video games as there are a lot of heated arguments about them and I have been guilty about debating the former. But I'll give movies a pass since it does have the power to influence a person's way of thinking. Video games and sports however? Calm down, it's just a bit of fun! Now when talking about sports I don't mean stuff like the Olympics or The World Cup since there is more at stake than just competitiveness since for people of harsh backgrounds, this is all they have and again, it's a lifestyle choice and I respect that. I'm on about smaller scale sports events like P.E. for instance.

I HATED P.E. when I did it in school. It was too intense for my liking and I was rubbish at all the sports I did. However, I hate sports like Football more than athletic sports (which I don't hate that much I just suck at it) is because of the pressure. People just suddenly expected me to be to be good at it even though I'm rubbish and it is too intense for my liking. When the ball comes to me, I panic because people charge at me as well so I kick the ball anywhere. This usually comes to the opposing team and my own team gets angry.... even though there's nothing at stake.

You regardless of the stakes, sports fans treat it like a fight to the death. This is especially true of fighting sports (where they literally do that), Rugby (where there are a heck-load of injuries), dodgeball (*shudder*) and of course football, which is probably the most popular sport in the world. Even if it is just a bit of fun, players and fans are just so serious that it stops being fun. And that's my issue with sports, if people don't seem to have fun and yell all the time, why should I have fun.

Like I said, this is also true of other things such as movies and video games. Movies are so critically analysed that they stop being just popcorn entertainment (though I will admit, I'm guilty of this). Video games are so competitive that in co-op games such as DotA, people just yell left right and centre complete with swearing. Even the Internet is just a hive for yellers especially in YouTube.

My message is this, if you're passionate about something, that's fine, more power to you! Just don't ruin it for the rest of us. Especially if we are not on the same level as you.

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well!