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Monday, 17 July 2017

The Thirteenth Doctor: A Lesson on Dealing with Change

So on Sunday 16th July 2017, the BBC announced that Jodie Whittaker (Broadchurch, St Trinians, Attack the Block) would take over from Peter Capaldi as the titular role in the popular sci-fi series 'Doctor Who.' Though most of the fanbase (including myself) is okay with this, there is a very vocal minority voicing their displeasure at the notion that a woman is playing the Doctor for the first time (discounting Joanna Lumley from the spoof 'The Curse of Fatal Death'). 

There are many reasons for this, some understandable (the possibility of this turning into a gimmick), some downright horrifying (general sexism) and one that's very confusing. This particular argument states that the role of the Doctor has always been male and that this shouldn't change. Really? I mean I kind of get what they're saying. Each Doctor before her has been played by a white male actor (all of whom are brilliant) so a change in the status quo will be jarring. But here's the thing, this isn't the first time that 'Doctor Who' has changed its established status quo, which is demonstrated by two crucial changes in the show's history. 

A little background: In 1963, Sydney Newman initially pitched the show as an education show for children with the Doctor acting as a guide and the companions acting as audience surrogates. The time travel element was still there but the past and future settings would be used to teach kids about history and science respectively. He was also strongly against the idea of using 'BEMs' (Bug-Eyed Monsters). He also specifically wanted an old man as the Doctor since that would be most suitable for a mentor. The formula changed when Terry Nation wrote a script featuring the Daleks and though Newman hated it, producer Verity Lambert gave it a fair chance and, because there were no other scripts available, Newman reluctantly allowed it. The story, and the Daleks in particular, proved to be so successful that Newman revoked the no BEMs rule and soon, the show dropped the educational aspect to give a larger focus on the battling monsters angle. 

This change was vital to ensuring the show's popularity since the success of the Daleks pushed it to mainstream with other monsters such as the Cybermen and the Weeping Angels becoming just as iconic. 

The other change was the idea of regeneration. Originally, though the Doctor would be an alien, he would not change his face and William Hartnell would remain in the role. That changed when Hartnell got too ill to play the role. However, instead of outright cancelling the show for losing its main lead, Newman decided to introduced the idea of 'renewal' (later called regeneration) to ensure that the Doctor can be replaced should the actor choose to leave. As well as this, Hartnell's replacement, Patrick Troughton, decided to play the role differently, opting to play him as an eccentric uncle rather than Hartnell's grumpy grandfather. This ensured the show's longevity since the writers were allowed to explore the character in new and interesting ways so that when the show was at risk of going stale, they could always change the character.

The key word here is change. The show is very different to how it was originally with a new format, cast and crew but still retaining what made the original show so special. The Doctor is no different. The character has evolved from a patriarchal mentor with questionable morals to a hero who believes in gender neutral ideas such as equality, respect for others, kindness, resilience and doing the right thing no matter how hopeless the situation is. Even if the Doctor makes the wrong decisions, he is still justified in his actions..  A woman could embody these ideals just as easily as a man and if upcoming showrunner Chris Chibnall remembers to stay true to the Doctor's character, Jodie Whittaker could be a great Doctor.  On top of this, it has recently been established that the Doctor's people, the Time Lords, are gender fluid with characters such as the Master making the change from male to female and even back in the 80s, Sydney Newman was strongly considering replacing Colin Baker with a woman (though that request was declined leading to the casting of Sylvester McCoy)

Now, despite change being vital to the show's survival, I can understand those who are uncomfortable with Peter Capaldi leaving and being replaced with someone who appears to be completely different so let me recall the first time I experienced regeneration. 

The year was 2005 and I was watching Christopher Eccleston's final episode as the Doctor: 'The Parting of the Ways.' Though I was somewhat aware of other Doctors, I had no idea that Eccleston was leaving nor did I have a clue about the concept of regeneration so it came as a genuine shock to me when Eccleston suddenly changed into David Tennant. I was scared and confused. After all, I have been so used to the idea of one man playing the Doctor that the idea of the role being handed to a complete stranger was very jarring. As someone with autism, change is difficult to go through especially if I didn't know about it beforehand. Nevertheless, I really liked the show so I gave Tennant a chance and sure enough, he won me over and I even liked him more than Eccleston. Tennant's Doctor became my childhood hero and Doctor Who, as I've already mentioned, has changed my life and since then I was more familiar with the concept of regeneration. 

When Tennant announced that he was leaving though, I was even more skeptical that I was with Eccleston. After all, Tennant was a terrific Doctor and I had doubts about his replacement, Matt Smith's ability to fill his shoes. I wasn't the only one as many felt he was too young to take the role. But again, since I loved the show and Smith's debut series looked awesome, I checked him out anyway and though it took me longer to get used to Matt Smith, I thought he was a worthy successor to Tennant. Nowadays, it saddens me when I meet someone who never watched 'Doctor Who' past David Tennant as Matt Smith was great in his own right. It was at this point where regeneration became less scary and more exciting as it allowed me the opportunity to speculate as to who would take on the role and, as I got more familiar with the other Doctors, I was confident that whoever the BBC would be excellent. 

When Matt Smith announced that he was leaving, I was sad but also excited as to who could replace him and sure enough, when Peter Capaldi was announced as the 12th Doctor, I was pleased though others were skeptical because they felt he was too old (ironic since William Hartnell was the same age as Capaldi when he first started). It was around this time where a female Doctor became a possibility and to be honest, I didn't want that to happen. The concept of gender-fluid regeneration wasn't firmly established at the time so I was convinced that this wasn't a good idea. However, when Missy was introduced and revealed to be the Master (a typically male character), I warmed up the idea of a female Doctor to the point where my current top choice, Hayley Atwell, is female. So when Jodie Whittaker was announced as the 13th Doctor, I was happy despite the fact that I have only heard of her this weekend. And now? I'm waiting to see what Whittaker and Chris Chibnall has to offer and Broadchurch is now a must buy. 

The point of this anecdote is that no matter who they cast and no matter how different the Doctor appears to be, the Doctor is still the Doctor and I can guarantee you that you would be upset when she leaves. 

So yes, a female Doctor is unheard of but it's not out of place with the show's ideology. Change is important as it potentially allows for better things to happen. We would still be in the stone age if not for change. 'Doctor Who' and its 12 actors are a shining example of how good change can be since it demonstrates that change can make a struggling TV show into a worldwide phenomenon. So long as you understand the importance of change, then the idea of a female Doctor won't seem so scary. 

Good luck Jodie Whittaker and Chris Chibnall. Here's hoping that you two will pull it off spectacularly. 


That concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think of this new development in Doctor Who? Do you agree with my statements about change? Do you think Jodie Whittaker is a good choice? Why/Why not? Leave your thoughts in the comments below (And please be civil! I can't abide sexism and the social media side of 'Doctor Who' is already depressing me). Please give this post a share, like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' and leave any suggestions on what topics you want me to cover next. Until then, fare thee well good people of the internet!


Sunday, 14 May 2017

Defining My Weirdness: How I Fit Into the Characteristics of Autism (Autism Awareness Special)

Sooooo this is a bit late. I had intended to do 2017's Autism Awareness Special with a case study on Sheldon Cooper from 'The Big Bang Theory' but there's hundreds of episodes worth of examples and I honestly can't sift through them all to find them so that's on permanent hiatus until further notice. Instead, I thought I'd try out something different for my belated Autism Awareness Special.

I thought I'd try listing all known characteristics of autism and I'll see if I fit into them. The point of this is three-fold:

1) This will hopefully explain my somewhat unusual quirks to those of you readers that have had the pleasure of knowing me personally

2) It'll hopefully teach you on well-known characteristics of autism

3) If I don't fit with all of these, it'll be proof that no two autistic people are the same and some characteristics will be more prominent in some people than others

I've decided to take the list from the Rocky Point Academy website (Link below the article) as it is the longest one, thus creating a stronger list. If any of these are inaccurate, sound off in the comments below.

Without further ado, here we go!


  1. Very little or no eye contact - If there's one thing I don't know about most of my friends is their eye colour. Try as I might, I seem unable to look into people's eyes for more than a second. Sometimes this gets to the point where I don't remember their faces after a first encounter.
  2. Resistance to being held or touched - At first but I'm more open to it lately. Initiating physical contact is another thing entirely since I feel I have to get others' permission first.
  3. Tends to get too close when speaking to someone (lack of personal space) - I have a huge sense of personal space and I don't like people getting too close (whether or not this applies to relationships remains to be seen)
  4. Responds to social interactions but does not initiate them - Very mixed actually.  On the whole, I'm bad at both initiating conversations and responding to them. However, if it's a topic I'm actively interested in, I will respond and initiate.
  5. Does not share observations or experiences with others - I honestly can't think of an example that either confirms or denies this. Those of you who know me well will hopefully do this for me.
  6. Difficulty in understanding jokes, figure of speech or sarcasm - I have managed to understand all three in some capacity though idioms have been a problem in the past. Banter is the one thing I have yet to understand.
  7. Difficulty in understand body language and facial expressions - Problem in the past but I understand the basic emotions. More complex emotions are tricky (I am yet to understand, for example, if someone is interested in me romantically though I have a feeling that's a problem with most men)
  8. Difficulty in understand the rules of conversation - Definitely! Small talk in particular is a hard one to do. I've only mastered conversations in geeky stuff or stuff I have vast knowledge in but gossip and other conversation conventions are tricky to me.
  9. Difficulty understanding group interactions - Unsure. I love group interactions but I often feel left out of them through my lack of social interaction and large amounts of daydreaming. To be honest, I don't understand what they mean here.
  10. Aversion to answering question about themselves - Only if I have no idea how to answer it. Ironically, it's questions about my autism I have the most difficulty answering.
  11. Gives spontaneous comments which seem to have no connection to the current conversation - This has lead to some amusingly awkward moments between myself and my peers. This is what happens when one is unable to track conversations properly.
  12. Makes honest but inappropriate observations - Yes and I often dig myself a whole trying to rectify this. 
  13. Seems unable to understand another's feelings - I find this more common with women but again, it seems that most men are naive about that. They even did a funny Family Guy sketch on it (Men! We don't know what we did!)
  14. Prefers to be alone, aloof or overly friendly - Depends on my mood. Sometimes I want to be alone and sometimes I crave a social situation. It's a funny old brain this.
  15. Difficulty maintaining friendships - Making friends is very difficult and maintaining them can be difficult as I tend to lose touch with them out of anxiety.
  16. Finds it easier to socialize with older and younger people rather than peers my own age - Actually yes. I do prefer interacting with adults than teenagers though children stress me out after a while.
  17. Unaware of/disinterested in everything around me - The first one applies more as I tend to daydream (a lot!)
  18. Talks excessively about one or two topics - Dunununun dunununun dunununun, OOOOOWEEEEEOOOOOOO! (That was the Doctor Who theme for those who thought I have temporarily gone insane)
  19. Overly trusting or unable to read behind the people's motives on actions - Depends on how well I know them. If I know them well, it's the former. If I barely know them or not at all, it's the latter.
  20. Minimal acknowledgement of others - I feel like I'm repeating myself here but yes that does often happen. 
  21. Abnormal use of pitch, intonation, rhythm or stress whilst speaking - Unsure. I might need to check with others for that. It sometimes feels weird with the pitch and tone but other than that, haven't the foggiest.
  22. Speech is abnormally loud or quiet - I have been told I should become a thespian actor because of my naturally loud voice
  23. Difficulty whispering - Actually yes. My whispering is often as loud as my voice
  24. Repeats last words or phrases several times. Makes verbal sounds whilst listening (echolalia) - Sounds right to me. I can't help it, it just happens.
  25. Often uses short incomplete sentences - I think you can tell by some of the short sentences in this article. I do tend to waffle at times but I like using short incomplete sentences. It makes it snappy, you know.
  26. Pronouns are inappropriately used - I do use 'one' as a pronoun even though it's rarely used anymore. Does that count?
  27. May have a high vocabulary - I highly approve of this particular symptom. It demonstrates how one can be sufficiently articulated in their speech patterns and writing styles. (Yes I have a reasonably high vocabulary)
  28. Uses a person's name excessively when speaking to them - At times. I also say please twice in one sentence (Can I please have this please?)
  29. Speech started very early then stopped for a period of time - Nope! I was a late bloomer. I couldn't speak until I was around 3 (though I'm given to understand that it's a common symptom. It might pop up later).
  30. Difficulty understanding directional terms - I know my lefts and rights thank you very much.
  31. Obsession with objects, ideas and desires - Again, Doctor Who. But I'm also obsessed Star Wars, music and romance (the latter files under desires I believe). 
  32. Fascination with rotation - Part of my fiddling habits (stimming). I do like rotating things a lot.
  33. Play is often repetitive - I'm an adult so play is now minimal but as a child, I often played out my own Doctor Who ideas with figures repeatedly (some of which I have since developed into actual story ideas).
  34. Many and varied collections - When one is a geek, one tends to collect things. 
  35. Unusual attachments to objects - If there's one thing I will never get rid of is my star teddy. 
  36. Quotes movies or video games - Again, Doctor Who and Star Wars. I quote them when the situation almost demands it.
  37. Difficulty transferring skills from one area to another - The only time where I know this applies is memory. I have a very selective memory since I remember some things really well and forget things in other subjects or in general.
  38. Perfectionism in some areas - Holy TARDIS of Gallifrey are some of these worded poorly?! I think it means a strict adherance to routine. If my routine or plan is disrupted, I will get distressed. I think this also applies to my habit of making lists but that feels irrelevant 
  39. Frustration expressed in unusual ways - I tend to scream in anger if that answers that question
  40. Feels the need to fix or rearrange things - One particular area where this annoys me is book and DVD order. I have to put them in chronological order or else they will make no sense.
  41. Transitioning from one activity to another is difficult - Not sure. The only time this question makes sense is that I'm great in some subjects but terrible in others.
  42. Difficulty attending to some tasks - I find this applies to practical tasks since the amount of instructions overwhelm me. This includes cooking and science experiments.
  43. Gross motor skills are developmentally behind peers - I can't drive/ride anything with wheels and I completely such at sports. The only one I am good at is walking. I'm a fast walker.
  44. Fine motor skills are developmentally behind peers - I thought that was to do with hypotonia (weak muscle tone which I have also been diagnosed with). Regardless, I can't tie shoelaces (no matter how many times I try), I can't cut straight with scissors, my wrapping skills are appalling and even I can't read my handwriting.
  45. Inability to perceive dangerous situations - Depends on how alert I am. If I'm in my own little world then no. If I'm panicking then yes, too much.
  46. Extreme phobia/fears for no apparent reason - Loud noises and dolls of any kind spring to mind.
  47. Verbal outbursts - I think so? I'm not sure.
  48. Unexpected movements - I do randomly do things when I feel like it but I also stick to a routine so I can be fairly predictable, 
  49. Difficulty sensing time - I'm awful without a nearby clock/watch. I have no idea how fast or slow something is
  50. Difficulty waiting their turn (such as in line) - I am rather impatient, especially when I'm time constrained.
  51. Causes injury to self - Don't worry, I'm too scared of pain for that. The only exception is smacking my head or lightly banging my head against the wall whenever myself or someone else says or does something stupid. I can't abide stupidity.
  52. Walks on toes - Only to reach something though I might do it subconsciously
  53. Unusual gait - Fun fact: I had to look up what that means! Apparently it means funny walks. Yes I do walk in unusual ways including C-3PO when trying to get through crowds. 
  54. Difficulty changing from one floor surface to another (carpet to wood, pavement to grass) - Not anymore. Apparently that used to be a problem with grass but nowadays, I love being barefoot on grass. 
  55. Odd or unnatural posture - I think I'm somewhat hunched but honestly, I don't know because I haven't bothered to compare myself with someone with natural posture
  56. Difficulty moving through space (bumps into objects and people) - Not a major problem but I have bumped into people in the past. Especially the tighter the space.
  57. Walks without swinging arms freely - I'm the opposite. I'm a swinger (wait...)
  58. Incontinence of bowels or bladder - My bowels are very much in control thank you very much
  59. Constipation - Oh boy... only happens due to lack of fibre
  60. Frequent gas - I'm flatulent yest but not Thunderpants levels. I'm getting uncomfortable with bowel questions, can we move on?
  61. Appearance of hearing problems, but hearing has been checked and is now fine - Yes. I am unable to hear people at times with multiple incidents of me saying 'pardon?'
  62. Seizure activity - None that I know of. The closest I fit to that is twitching 
  63. Irregular sleeping patterns - Sometimes I sleep like a log. Others I can't sleep at all. You can tell I prefer the former.
  64. Apparent lack of concern for personal hygiene - Less concern than others but I do have a concern for my hygiene! I'm not a neanderthal.

Aaaaaand that's it. Boy was that a long list. I do hope this isn't overwhelming for you guys but I hope this gives you a better insight towards my behaviour and the behaviour of people on the spectrum. If there are any that I've missed, sound off below and I will tell you if I adhere to them or not. 

Also, due to the fact that I don't follow all of these, this will hopefully demonstrate that not everyone on the spectrum follows all of these. There will be some things that I follow and other people on the spectrum don't and vice versa. I'm not the definitive article of autism!




Anywho, that concludes this Thought from an Autistic Mind. What did you think of this list? Is it accurate? Are there any that I've missed? What characteristics do you or people on the spectrum follow on this list? Sound off in the comments below and be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' Stay tuned for more posts in the future but until then, fair thee well good people of the internet!


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Others that I've missed: I do laugh nervously, I am sensitive to pain, I do have difficulty in asking for help or needs, I am very sensitive to sound and I want things to stay the same dagnabbit!


Sunday, 7 May 2017

The Dark and Dangerous Side of Fandom!

Introduction (Yes I'm splitting this into sections. I have that much to say about this)

Let's get real here. We currently live in a time of fandom. Because geek culture has pretty become mainstream with superhero movies topping box office numbers and genre television being regarded as some of the best around. As a result, fanboys and fangirls themselves have become more prominent. Most of the time, fans are generally nice people and fandoms themselves can be a good thing because it brings people together and helps form friendships and even romances. But, like Star Wars, for every light side, there is a dark side as there is an increasingly vocal minority on the internet that displays rather unpleasant behaviours. I will list the different types of negative fandom and explain the reason why using examples of different fandoms that exhibit these behaviours.

Before I do that though I would like to say that I myself am a fanboy. I am currently part of the Doctor Who, Star Wars, Harry Potter and Marvel fandoms amongst others so I feel like I'm a decent position to talk about its current state. I would also like to put out a disclaimer that these people are in the minority and the vast majority of fandoms are actually lovely people. With that out of the way, here are several dark aspects of fandom and why they concern me.

Fan Fictions and Fan Art

I have mentioned that there is a light side to fandom as well as a dark side and this is no exception. There are some truly great works of art worthy of being in a canvas as well as some legitimately talented writers in the fan fiction department (and I'm not talking about myself). They can be beneficial too as it helps budding artists and writers get noticed and refine their skills. I myself am happy that the BBC are running a fan fiction site that allows people like myself to write their own Doctor Who stories and it gives me greater hope that I'll get noticed and hopefully achieve my dream job of writing for Doctor Who. 

But sadly, they both get a bad name because there are those who use this medium to live out their somewhat disturbing fetishes. These include, but are not limited to: self-insert fan fiction where they do giggity things with fictional characters (human or otherwise), slash-fiction where fictional characters do giggity things with each other and, with fan art in particular. sexualisation of non-human characters, pregnancies and births. It doesn't help that these are often badly written or badly drawn, adding poor quality to the list of their 'crimes'.

Full disclosure, I haven't actually read/seen a lot of these because I've heard enough ghost stories about them to stay as far away from them as possible but the little I have seen is enough to scar me and even put me off certain media products because of the somewhat creepy nature of their fans. It also lessens the impact of certain media products like Five Nights of Freddy's because it makes something that was legitimately creepy and makes them, for lack of a better word, lame due to their infinitely less scary fan art. 

Fandoms that exhibit this behaviour include (but again are not limited to): Sonic the Hedgehog, My Little Pony, Five Nights at Freddy's, anime and Undertale. It's also no coincidence that they are also considered some of the worst fandoms due to their disturbing and unhealthy mindset and I personally believe that these people need to get some help. Though they are more weird than despicable and technically a more harmless side of fandom than others (more on that later) they are certainly the most unnerving and the type of fandom I would least like to interact with.    

I will say that they are mostly harmless in the grand scheme of things. They don't hurt anyone, at least to my knowledge, and one can easily avoid these. These kinds of fans also keep themselves to themselves unlike other types of fans that I will later mention. One notable exception is Fifty Shades of Grey, a Twilight fan fiction, where its grossly inaccurate portrayal of BDSM and romatacisation of domestic abuse could lead to people exhibiting similar behaviours. I will share a brilliant video from a YouTuber called The Dom (no he did not mean for it to be interpreted this way) explaining why on my Facebook page Joel Mole.

Side note: stay FAAAAAAR away from DeviantArt. You do not need the nightmares.

Fan Entitlement and Purism

Admittedly this isn't as bad as the previous sections but this is still rather saddening nonetheless. Believe it or not, this is the reason I made this post as recently, I have seen a noticable change in the Star Wars community. Now I'm not saying the Star Wars community is bad, they were so positive towards Hayden Christensen in the most recent Star Wars Celebration despite his character being ridiculed and the movies themselves have inspired some truly inspired fan films. However, when one looks in the YouTube comment section of Star Wars related videos, there is nothing but comments bashing the most recent films and TV shows (particularly The Force Awakens and Star Wars Rebels) focussing entirely on the negatives and blowing them out of proportion and ignoring the positives. Now people are entitled to their own opinions but when reading these comments, I doubt they have given them a fair chance. 

The reason for this, I think, is of two reasons rolled into one: the overwhelming love for the original trilogy and the distrust arising from the prequels culminating into purism. Because they love the original trilogy so much, they seem unable to enjoy anything that comes out since then as anything that isn't remotely perfect is automatically rubbish in their eyes. That's a somewhat unhealthy outlook on these products and honestly, it's better to watch it as its own product, which can allow a better sense of enjoyment. It also doesn't help that they denounce people who do like these products simply because it isn't their own opinions. This is the same with comic book adaptations. If something doesn't pander to their love for the comic books, they will not love it regardless of its quality and will not listen to any other opinions because of it.

I must confess that though I'd defend the latest Star Wars products to my grave, I have been a victim to purism. I cannot enjoy the Harry Potter films as much as I used to because of my die hard love for the books because of how many important plot details they have left out (though I do like the Chamber of Secrets, the Deathly Hallows and Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them) and I can't enjoy Disney's live action Beauty and the Beast film because it pales in comparison to the original despite it being very similar and harmless overall (though Emma Watson's distractedly bad singing may have something to do with it). This is what saddens me really because no-one is immune to this. At least with disturbing fan fictions, people can have sense not to write them but here, there is a danger of loving something too much that you fail to enjoy anything else.

Hostility and Trolling

Sadly the most extreme form of fan entitlement comes in the form of wrath. Like I said before, if entitled fans have opinions, they will stick to it and it is often the case where they disagree with someone's opinion so much, they will be angry to the point of personal attacks and death threats.

I find that this appears most often in video game communities. During multiplayer, when someone plays in a way that doesn't please them, they will scream insults at them complete with sweary swearatons and claims to have coitus with other people's mothers. It's honestly kind of toxic behaviour really and what's even more disturbing is that most of these people are children, typically 12 year old boys. 

I'm disgusted that people, especially children, feel like they are entitled to say horrible things to each other because of their anonymity and it's not just in video game communities. YouTube comments are filled with flame wars of differing opinions and horrible insults. Apparently Steven Universe and Sonic fans are especially guilty of this as anyone who dislikes the product gets death threats. 

It's rather depressing as one can't even express their opinions on the internet anymore because someone will turn up and harshly disagree. Aside from gaming communities, politics is a big cause of this attitude as it can get to the point of friends turning against friends (though that is something I will expand upon in a later post).

Unfortunately, it doesn't stop there as sometimes, there isn't a reason for someone to be nasty to others on the internet but that is how people behave and it can drive people to depression and even suicide. This is why I consider this to be the darkest part of fandom because it actually causes harm to people and seemingly allows people to exhibit disgusting behaviour online with seemingly little consequences.

Stalking and Celebrity Harassment

Unfortunately, this isn't the only toxic behaviour displayed by fandoms and honestly, it's the most worrying. There is an almost unhealthy obsession with celebrity culture to the point where there is stalking, sexual comments, harassment and paparazzi.

The latter is especially infuriating because it's like these people have no sense of privacy. What is so fascinating about these people that they have to report on every single aspect on their lives? They're people for crying out loud! Why can't you leave them alone! I'd imagine this causes some lasting psychological damage on them due to the amount of pressure placed on them! I'm looking at you TMZ! I'm looking at you OK magazine! Leave these people alone and find something better to do you cancerous harpies!!!

Ahem... sorry, at this point I've built up such a rage I might just hit something (though as a pacifist I'll refrain). Anyway, you see where I'm coming from? Fandom has got to such an extreme point that people are starting to exhibit dangerous behaviours that could negatively affect others.

The Light Side of Fandom

Right, before I break my oath of pacifism, I will mention that these people are thankfully in the minority. The majority of fans are generally pleasant people who have insightful views on movies and TV shows, are respectful to the cast and crew behind them and I myself have made most of my friends through these fandoms. There are also fandoms that are very harmless and very nice overall. I will now list some of the best fandoms and why I like them so much.

- Harry Potter: I have never seen a fandom so in love with their product yet so respectful of other opinions. The closest thing I have seen to hostility is the friendly teases against Hufflepuffs (I am a proud Hufflepuff by the way). Some cases of creepy fan fiction but they're not that prominent.

- Star Wars: Despite being the best example of purism gone wrong, this fandom is perhaps the most respectful to the cast and crew of the films (including George Lucas and Hayden Christensen) and like I said, this is a good example of fan fiction and fan art done right as some of the fan films and art are just beautiful and well made. 

- Doctor Who: Yes I know I am kind of biased but this is a great example of agreeing to disagree. We accept others' opinions despite not necessarily liking them and we all agree that the show is going downhill. Even the romantacisation of the show by Tumblr fans kind of makes sense since the show is rather poetic by nature. Honestly, the only major problem I have with the fandom is that we're dwindling in numbers.

- Star Trek: One of the original fandoms, the Star Trek fandom is probably the most agreeable of all the fandoms. They agree what films and TV shows they like and what  they don't like and happy with the new products despite it being different to what came before.

- Lord of the Rings: Besides Harry Potter, I have never seen a fandom so engrossed in the product but honestly, it's allowed because of how richly detailed Middle Earth is. They may be pedantic but they are also very harmless and lovely people.

Fandoms like these ensure that fandom itself doesn't fall into the pit of Taturus and I am proud to either know or to be a part of these fandoms.

Conclusion

I think the fundamental problem with fandom is that they take their respective products so seriously. It's okay to be passionate about them. It's a natural form of enjoyment after all. But when one takes it too far, it can lead to downright cancerous behaviour. My final message is this: it's okay to be a fan of something, it can change your life for the better like fandoms such as Doctor Who did for me; but just remember, it's not real, you don't need to use it as an excuse for being nasty.



That concludes this Thought from an Autistic Mind. I hope because of this article you will be respectful in the comments section and you're not horrible to each other. With that said, what did you think of it? Do you agree? Disagree? I hope I haven't offended anyone in this blog and I must stress, I love fandom, being a fanboy myself, I'm just disturbed about certain behaviours. If you do like this blog be sure to share this around and like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' Until the next time, fare thee well good people of the internet!

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I think this guy just sums up everything I just said

Saturday, 1 April 2017

BEANS!

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Oh and Happy April Fools Day

Saturday, 18 February 2017

How to survive the chaos that is the Nightclub



In my time at university, my most interesting experience is probably clubbing. Why? Because its so bizarrely hit and miss. You see, half the time I have a good night out and the other half, I absolutely hate it. It's very weird to say the least! I did make a couple of key observations onto the parts of the night out that factored into this opinion and hopefully I would offer advice to anyone, especially those with autism, on how to cope with a night out clubbing.

Since I don't drink, for reasons I have made very clear in the past, it perplexes me that the vast majority of people there get tipsy at the very least. At first I assumed that these people didn't know how to have fun but soon I discovered that they do it for a good reason: clubs are boring. It's basically about 3 hours of dancing. That's it. Eventually you'll run out of stamina and, since it's so loud (I'll get to that later) you can't strike up a conversation with someone. It gets so bad that most people have pre-drinks so that they'll already be drunk by the time they get there. Being drunk means you're unaware of the boredom that is clubbing and so you can have more fun. In that sense, clubbing is fundamentally flawed.

However, linking back to that earlier post I subtly embedded into this post, there is away around this. Very recently, I found that if you drink lemonade half-way through your clubbing experience, you'll get psyched and the stamina returns. Not to mention, lemonade is only £1 if you get it the right size. Good music helps as well and perhaps this is the biggest factor of the hit and miss nature of clubs. When the music is good, it's enjoyable. If not, prepare for boredom unless you're drunk.

Another thing to note, which has been the bane of my clubbing experience, is finding companions to go home with. If you want to go home early, be sure to go with people who are willing to do the same because otherwise, you may be stranded. You could try going home with people of your own age going to the same destination, but that's unreliable since you don't know them and you have to rely on them being desperate as well. So please make sure you have a reliable companion with you.

Another thing to note is the concept of 'pulling.' What I mean by that is snogging strangers. This may not happen (at the time of writing, it has not happened to me) but if it does, remember two things: 1) They'll be drunk so it might mean nothing, so don't get too attached. 2) If it goes further, use protection! 3) Don't expect it to happen. Most of the time it doesn't happen so if that's the case, don't feel disappointed. 4) If you're initiaiting it, make sure you get consent for reasons that will hopefully be obvious (if not, for the love of Gallifrey, watch this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8). I know it would be harder when drunk but please keep that in mind. Or better yet, don't get drunk. It looks like a nasty experience and you'll feel like death the next morning.

I did say I would get back to noise so I will. This is especially for those with autism who doesn't like noise. Clubs will be very loud and if that puts you off, that's fine. You don't have to go and nobody has any right to pressure you otherwise. But if you choose to go and you're still concerned about noise, I'd recommend earplugs. If you're worried it'll look weird, don't worry. It's dark and people are too drunk to notice it anyway. If anything, it's better for you since it protects your ears from harm.

Oh and speaking of Autistic people's worst nightmares, it will be crowded! The solution to that problem is simple: Go somewhere where there's space! Not only will you have more room to bust your moves but it's also more comfortable and less people will bump you.

One more thing to note is that go clubbing occasionally, not regularly. Not only would it feel more rewarding and special but your finances will take a lesser hit, especially when you're in Uni. Only go when you're extremely bored of staying in all the time.

Most importantly, just have fun! That's what clubs are for anyway: to have a good time. So long as you're safe, you can have a good time. Or go to the pub... that works too. At least you'll be able to hear people.



And that concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. Did you like my advice? Is there anything else you would like to offer to this discussion? Leave a like and comment both on here and Facebook and be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' I might make this a monthly thing from now on so I can have a regular schedule but of course, I will need ideas so if there is any topics you want me to cover, I will discuss it either in a blog post or on my Joel Mole page. See you next month! Until then, fare thee well good people of the internet.

Sunday, 25 December 2016

Gather round kids! It's a Thought's from an Autistic Mind Christmas Special!

Huzzah, I think it's finally time
To do this blog entirely in rhyme.
You know as it's Christmas day,
I refuse to do it another way.
So sit back, relax, whilst I'll
Do this special in another style.

So Christmas, it is truly great,
So why is it filled with so much hate?
With people stressing about presents
And those dreaded family events.
Plus, especially with this year,
There's the added lack of cheer
With wars and death and politics,
None of those we can fix.

So with everyone rushing and shouting
And pushing and pouting
All upon this Christmas season.
I think people forget the reason
Why we celebrate in December.
So I think it's time that people remember
That fateful night when Jesus was born.
(Oh yeah I probably should warn
You I'm bringing religion into this
But I do have a point! I promise!)

You see the intention of his birth
Was to redeem a broken earth
With innocence and kindness,
And most of all forgiveness
For all our wrongdoings in the past
So when we die we can at last
Go join him up beyond the sky,
And see all the angels fly.

You see where I'm going here?
I think it's time to channel that cheer.
Not just today but everyday
Don't throw that Christmas spirit away!
When 2017 arrives,
It will be a difficult year in our lives.
With Trump in power and Brexit too
I'm not sure what the future holds for you.
But remember to hold that spirit tight
And Merry Christmas to all and to all goodnight!






Wednesday, 23 November 2016

Breaking News: I Love Doctor Who! (*Gasp*)



Sheesh... 'Doctor Who' is 53 years old... That's impressive! And that's not the only reason I'll be gushing over this show today. 'Doctor Who' is sadly becoming less popular with a decline in viewership and everyone I know saying that 'Doctor Who' was never as good as when David Tennant was around. So... am I allowed to say that I still love this show? Even the current stuff? OK before you give your computer screen a funny look, allow me to explain.

For those of you who don't know, 'Doctor Who' is a science fiction show surrounding an alien called The Doctor who travels in a time/space travelling box called the TARDIS that is bigger on the inside than it is on the outside. Through it, The Doctor picks up human companions and takes them everywhere in time and space, battling monsters along the way. Now if that premise alone doesn't justify my love for the show I don't know what will because that is a fantastic premise! Because of the TARDIS, the writers are not restricted by setting, meaning that they can do whatever they want with the show, provided that it doesn't break the established universe (I'm looking at you Steven Moffat). The sheer imagination has inspired me to take up a career path in creative writing, particularly screenplays because I want to share my own somewhat creative ideas (no I'm not saying what they are in case they come up on TV someday). It stays fresh too as The Doctor can change his appearance and personality when near the point of death, meaning that the writers can do new things with the character.

My personal experience with the show began in March 2005, when 'Doctor Who' came back after a 16 year hiatus. Immediately I was intrigued by this show and by the season finale, I loved it and I was very sad to see Christopher Eccleston leave. Luckily, David Tennant came along and he became my Doctor. By his season, I became obsessed with the show and it never left. Even though I had to miss a few episodes because of their fear factor (I was 7 when it started after all) I still loved it and I went back to those episodes once I got older and braver. Since then I built up a collection of toys, DVDs, books and other memorabillia to create a collection so large, I couldn't take all of it with me to University.

Besides the creative premise, the reason I love this show is because I also find a role model in The Doctor himself. He is a man who is never cruel or cowardly and always finds a peaceful solution to his problems. He is caring and compassionate and he gives his enemies the benefit of the doubt before he defeats them. He never uses a weapon but he does use his intelligence and wit to save the day. In fact, Steven Moffat, whom I mentioned earlier, said this quote that summed it up better than I did:

The enemies were great too! The Daleks, The Doctor's most recurring enemies, are as iconic as The Beatles in terms of quintessential Britishness. The Cybermen, cyborgs that were once human and now want to convert other like them, are even more relevant now that they were back in the 1960s. The Weeping Angels, as scary as some of the horror classics with their great premise of statues that move when you look away or blink. And The Master, The Doctor's arch-nemesis, is a delightfully evil character. They, and thousands of more monsters keep the show entertaining and creative.

Though to me, the biggest reason why I still love the show is the impact it had on me. I already mentioned it shaping my career path but there are many other reasons as well. Without it, I would never have discovered the internet, I would have less friends since that show is what helped me form friendships with people and I would never have got into film criticism, and therefore film in general, since my love for criticism spawned from 'Doctor Who' reviews. This has made such a large impact on my life that I can't imagine myself in a world where this show never existed!

This is why I watch the show even through the questionable decisions such as including a superhero in the Christmas special, even after 'Hell Bent,' one of the most painful experiences I've been through as a Whovian, even during this year where the BBC stopped putting out content, even through a spin-off that split people down the middle, and even through Steven Moffat's lazy writing. I love the show regardless of its many flaws and trials because I know how great it was and how much of an impact it was to me. I love the characters, I love the premise, I love the imagination and I'm hopeful that the writing will improve and 'Doctor Who' will be great once more!

This concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. It's nice to be kind to something after I basically made fun of the President of the US. What did you think of this post? Do you have your own show that you just love with all of your heart? Comment below and as always, please like my Facebook page Joel Mole, share this around the internet and tell me what you like and dislike about this (though be civil, I'm allergic to trolls). See you next time whenever that may be. Until then, fair thee well good people of the internet.

From left to right: William Hartnell (Doctor #1), Patrick Troughton (Doctor #2), Jon Pertwee (Doctor #3), Tom Baker (Doctor #4), Christopher Eccleston (Doctor #9), Matt Smith (Doctor #11), Peter Capaldi (Doctor #12), David Tennant (Doctor #10), John Hurt (Doctor #8.5), Paul McGann (Doctor #8), Sylvester McCoy (Doctor #7), Colin Baker (Doctor #6), Peter Davison (Doctor #5)



Wednesday, 9 November 2016

Joel Mole's Guide to Surviving Trump's America

America has currently joined the UK as one of the most idiotic countries in the World. This is because Donald Trump, a racist, homophobic sex offender, has now become president of the United States of America. Of course this raises questions of the mental state of a supposedly great country but what's done is done and now, for any American readers out there, I present to you a survival guide into how to survive Trump's America with my limited political knowledge.

Seek out the Clinton voters
Clearly not everyone voted for Trump so that means that those who have voted Clinton either a) actually supported her or b) doesn't want Trump to become president. Now Clinton wasn't much better than Trump with her shady ties but she at least doesn't judge and those who voted her likely won't judge either. Seek them out and you will find solidarity

Find another Martin Luther King Jr.
Trump is a racist gimboid so it's very likely that the ethnic minorities (or should I say majorities) will be cowering in fear of Trump's reign of terror. Now, I know that there is already a civil rights movement but it needs to be stronger than ever so it needs another peaceful leader like Martin Luther King Jr. was in the past in order to convince Trump the error of his ways. After all, it's not like the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present and Yet to Come won't do it.

Get nuclear bunkers
With Trump's mentality, World War Three could be on the horizon so make sure you get a nuclear bunker so that you can be safe during a nuclear apocalypse. There are other websites which explain how to survive an apocalypse so I recommend you check those out for more details

Drink
I normally don't condone this but mate, you need booze for this so you can wallow in misery and wonder where America went wrong

American Suffragette
Trump hates women so feminism is more important than ever and we need a third (or fourth?) wave of feminism to make sure that women's rights change for the better and to show women that Trump must be stopped. If successful, half of America would be against Trump.

LGBT Movement
I hope you follow the footsteps of women and ethnic majorities and start your own movement against Trump's regime. Who knows, you three can unite and you, plus sympathizers, could rise for change.

Move to Canada
Perhaps the most realistic and most sensible option. Sure it's cold but the people are so friendly it's a stereotype, the economy is strong, healthcare is fair, it's very eco-friendly and it's created many great celebrities such as:

  • Jim Carrey
  • Michael J. Fox
  • Ryan Gosling
  • Michael Bubble (I mean Bublé)
  • Mike Myers 
  • William Shatner
  • Dan Akroyd
  • Céline Dion
  • Avril Lavigne
  • Ryan Reynolds
  • Donald Sutherland 
  • Carrie-Ann Moss
  • Keanu Reeves
  • Evageline Lilly
  • Seth Rogen
Sure it also created Justin Bieber but Canada had the sense to not accept him back after he moved to America. So long as you have money, people you know and knowledge on Canada you should be fine.


I hope you found this useful (though I'd be surprised if you did). If not, then at least you can appreciate the satirical presentation at my views of Trump becoming president. In all seriousness, to all the women, LGBT people, ethnic majorities and people with common sense: good luck. I'm sure other countries will support you.

This concludes my Thought from an Autistic Mind. Now I'm not an expert on politics and I'm sure people more qualified than me can share their thoughts in a better format. I just wanted to present a lighthearted piece of satire whilst simultaneously sharing my views on Trump becoming president. I hope you enjoy it and if there are movements against Trump, great! Best of luck to you! Now for the obligatory plug. Be sure to share this blog around and like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole.' Also be sure to use the page to suggest ideas on what I give my thoughts on because I need that motivation people! Until then, fair thee well good people of the internet.




Tuesday, 2 August 2016

What is love (baby don't hurt me. Don't hurt me no more)

Well... This year has been a bit pants so far hasn't it? I mean so far we've had almost daily attacks (mainly from ISIS) in all sorts of countries, lots of respected celebrities have died, Britain has left the EU putting the country's economic future and reputation in doubt and people have been very nasty to each other whether it's to do with Trump (whom I have a horrible feeling is going to be president) or the flippin ghostbusters movie!

All this hatred going on in the world has made me wonder: has humanity forgotten about love? It doesn't   seem to be the case since most people, particularly the LGBT community, have stood up against hatred, but there's lots of hatred to begin with. Perhaps we need to be reminded that love, not war or hatred, is a far better option.

What do I consider love to be? In it's basic form, love is the undying affection you give to another person. Whether it's through kindness, romance or platonic love like the kind you give to your friends and family. Love, in my eyes, is shown through unity in some form. For instance, platonic love ensures unity between family and friends and in it's highest form, you cherish and are willing to stand up for them. Romantic love is unity between two people with a deep affection between them and in it's highest form, the partners become like one and are inseparable.

For me, what separates love from a simple desire or an infatuation is the nobility of it. Desire from my point of view, is wanting something desperately that you know isn't going to last forever whether it's an object or sex. Love however is the assurance that whoever your with will be a good part of your life forever. It's feeling comfortable towards them rather than craving them. It's needing them instead of wanting them. And it's friendly, not obsessive.

Now this might make no sense and I'd understand that. Love is an abstract concept and as someone with autism who doesn't know an awful lot about human interaction, I may be wrong about this. But, to paraphrase Forrest Gump: "I may be autistic but I know what love is." And honestly, at this stage, I appear to know about it more than most people. Lemme put it this way: if someone like me, who doesn't entirely know about love, understands it more than those people, then humanity needs to get their act together.

That concludes this Thought from an Autistic Mind. This was tricky since love is an abstract concept which I don't wholly understand. I just wanted to give my unique views on love and to bring up this topic in a time where it couldn't be more important. Lemme know what you thought on my views. Perhaps you could share your ideas on what love is, I'd be interested to hear a second opinion. As always, be sure to follow me on Facebook and Google+ (both under the name Joel Mole) and be sure to send this to as many people as possible. As always fair thee well and see you in [insert date here].


Saturday, 2 April 2016

Help! My child has autism! (Autism awareness day special)

Happy autism awareness day/month everyone! Yes it is so obscure that even I forgot it existed (ironic that there's a lack of awareness for autism awareness day). We should make an effort to make it stand out more since autism can be an issue if the person with autism is not cared for. Which brings me to my next point: what do you do if your child has autism?

I'm going to come out and say it: I'm not a parent and I'm not planning to have any children any time soon. This blog is coming from the point of view of someone who WAS the autistic child. First things first, don't panic! They are still your child so they'll still love you and vice versa. Secondly, if you haven't done so already, get them diagnosed as soon as possible just to be sure. Thirdly, if they seem secluded, that's fine, they're just off in their own little world minding their own business; just let them do that unless they need to concentrate for an important reason. If they get distressed and you don't know why, it's probably because something has happened that has affected their routine or little world  and if that's the case don't worry, just be patient and they'll calm down.

Another important thing is to send them to an autism friendly school so they'll be cared for by experts who know how to care for autistic people. Another important thing is to help them understand the world and the neurotypical people in it. That way, they'll eventually learn how to interact with people better. It may be ideal to help the people around you, including the child themselves, understand autism so that they can understand why the child seems different.

It's ideal to help them build a social life. Of course if they're happy being alone that's fine but you need to teach them valuable social skills in order for them to interact with people better and they can make friends on their own. Don't force friends on them if you're worried about their loneliness and just guide them into making friends on their own.

That's really all I got. Like I said, I'm not a parent so I'm a little unsure myself what would I do if I had an autistic child but I'm giving this advice because whatever my parents did to make me the man I am now must have been effective or else, I probably wouldn't be doing this blog to help others like me or those who know people like me. One thing's for sure though, that child would love you until the end of time, even if they don't show it because they may not know how, so I'm sure, whoever you are in this situation, that you will love them too.


And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. Seeing as this is the first one to be written on an iPhone (my laptop was broken by my own stupidity) there would have been typos so please point out any mistakes in the comments below. Also on a side note, maybe talk to some parents of autistic people, see what they suggest since they're probably more qualified to deal with this topic than me. Let me know what you thought of this blog in the comments below, like the Facebook page 'Joel Mole' and share this across the internet! Until the next time, fair thee well!


Saturday, 16 January 2016

Masculinity: I'd rather be feminine!

Feminism... it's really misunderstood. The movement to promote gender equality has now been perceived as a movement designed to prevent oppression on women. It's a fair assumption since women are generally more oppressed than men and there are gigantic twonks out there who do oppress and harm women. Make no mistake, female subordination is a huge issue but radical and other feminists who have warped the idea are forgetting one thing: what about men? We have our own problems too you know! Admittedly we have less problems than women but I want to address certain injustices that men face as well, particularly the concept of masculinity.

The concept of masculinity is that men are expected to be strong, brave and not the least bit vulnerable. Of course men are socialised to not be complete sissys and to 'act like a man' and be tough in the face of it all. This... irks me. I myself was expected to act tough and cool, especially in secondary school where, in the early years at least, I was told not to cry so I can be accepted. Now, crying is such a rarity in me. I keep my pain within or regressed to screams when I am physically hurt and in terms of emotional damage, very few things make me cry. I never cry in movies where I should and in sad situations, I do cry sometimes when it's really damaging but most of the time the tears never come. Where are you tears??? Where the smeg are you????

I doubt it's just me because I've never really seen a grown man cry in real life. At least not to my memory. I expect it’s because we're expected not to cry and to act brave in the face of turmoil. Women are the only gender who are meant to cry apparently and men who cry are passed off as cry-babies. I'm sorry but I can't stand that! I want to be able to cry and not feel ashamed in doing so! I want to feel scared of things without being labelled a wuss! I'm not manly, I'm me! So let me be me society!!!

The concept of manliness has led to a lack of knowledge of serious issues. For example, domestic abuse is the biggest form of oppression towards women as they are violently attacked and intimidated to the point of emotional scarring. That is a huge problem but it's not one way. Men get attacked and abused too. Most recently, YouTuber Matthew Santoro released his story of abuse on YouTube and it got me thinking, why don't men get recognised as victims too? Then I cast my mind back to sociology and crime statistics, particularly in terms of domestic violence. The main reason why men don't get recognised as victims of domestic is likely because of the fact that they're too ashamed to admit they are attacked by a woman which is considered to be a damage to their masculinity. Men, as well as women, should be recognised for those things!

It's not just masculine behaviour, the masculine image can be damaging to a man's self-esteem. Casting back to my 'Models are Clones' blog post, I noted how the 'perfect image' can give people unrealistic expectations on what they should look like. The same applies to men as they are expected to have lots of muscles and a 'boy-band' complexion. It is often men who fit that description who are seen as desirable and not all men in general. 

I suppose that's why I relate to women more than men. Don't get me wrong, I know a lot of great men and boys but I prefer the company of women because they are free to be honest with their emotions whereas men just try to act 'cool' when really it can be a mask. The men I relate with are more open with their emotions and are not as 'manly' as stereotypes suggest. I myself have some feminine traits like in my taste of music (I like Taylor Swift and Lana Del Rey rather than rap and heavy metal music), my choice in films (I like manly films like Mad Max: Fury Road but I also enjoy rom-coms like Love Actually) and my emotions despite the lack of tears (such as fear). Apparently I also used to play with Barbies as well during my Pre-Doctor Who days.


Really, the people are not entirely masculine or feminine. A nice hybrid of the two makes them more relatable and trustworthy because they are open with their feelings. Back to the issue at hand, I wish masculinity would just die because boys and men shouldn't just be tough, they should be emotional too and be allowed to like things such as Disney Princesses (another thing I like). Most importantly, they should be seen in issues such as domestic violence and they shouldn't hide because of their masculinity. Sometimes men have to let it out...

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 




Thursday, 3 December 2015

Why the Syrian air strike is a stupid decision

Well you did it didn't you! You must be so proud of yourselves government! You have no idea what you lot have unleashed have you! Look I get that you don't read my blogs, only once did a post break the 100 view mark, but this is common sense!!! Buckle up people, this is not going to be a fun post.

As many of you saw on the news, the majority of MP's voted to bomb parts of Syria following the Paris attacks. This is a stupid decision! I understand why, they're scared, we all are but did you have to let fear get to your heads? Did you not stop to think about the consequences of bombing parts of a country???

Firstly, this is obviously going to start a war. ISIS aren't exactly going to look sheepish and say "we're sorry!" Of course not! They're likely to bomb London much like what they did in Paris and hey, it might be a worse attacks. So innocent people in the UK are at risk because of YOUR decision!

It's not just the UK, like that Doctor Who quote said "you have no idea who's going to die!" Syria doesn't just contain ISIS, It contains hundreds of thousands of innocent men, women and children, who are already terrified since they risk their lives in leaving that hellish place. You're just making them more terrified by bombing them! That is, those who survive because we all know that during an air strike like that, at least one innocent person will die. Who knows? It could even be a child! If you do that, then technically you could be doing worse to Syria than what ISIS did to Paris.

I doubt this will be the first time, if other countries join you (which they no doubt will), then we may have a third world war on our hands. If you thought the first two world wars were bad, because of the rise in technology means that nuclear weapons and God knows what else would be among the weapons we have! You know what that means! More people will die because of this!!!!

Now I know what you're thinking, "we can't do nothing after an attack like that." Now that's true since another attack seems inevitable but here's what I would've done. I would've increased security and defences in the UK to make sure this doesn't happen to us and I'm sure other countries, especially Paris, would do the same.

You know what I'm furious! The UK government made a huge mistake in striking back and honestly, I'm starting to lose faith in this country because there are some people who believe this is a GOOD thing! Please just ignore your patriotism or paranoia for one minute to see what an idiotic thing the government has done. If you still think it just please tell me why!!! Otherwise if people think that retaliation is better than turning the other cheek, then I don't want to live in this country anymore... (That is figurative, there is too many to leave behind for me to leave plus it's expensive)

To sign off, I'm going to put that Doctor Who quote up again and please pay attention to it! 





"When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die! You don't know whose children are going to scream and burn; how many hearts will be broken; how many lives shattered; how much blood will spill before everybody does what they were always going to have to do from the very beginning! SIT. DOWN. AND TALK!" 
#keepthepeace

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 




Saturday, 28 November 2015

The Paris Attacks and Migration: Why people need to calm down!

As those of you who aren't living under a rock know, on Friday 13th November 2015, Paris was attacked through a series of bombings and shootings by the terrorist group known as ISIS. At least 120 people were killed. This is a horrific event and I'm glad people are showing their support. However what I'm talking about is the reactions people had. Building on this, it's about time I addressed the migrant crisis and people's attitude towards non-British people.

In talking about the reactions, most of which has been positive with numerous buildings being illuminated in the tricolour in tribute to Paris and I commend them for that. However in the Internet things are different, particularly when it comes to what they have to say about ISIS. Now ISIS are a truly despicable group and I, like many people, are baffled at their horribly misguided judgements on humanity. But that does not excuse people judging all Muslims and Syrians by what one splinter group has done. Seriously, thanks to the media, Muslims have a pretty bad name right now because of the actions of ISIS and Al-Qaeda. Just because one or two splinter groups do terrible things doesn't mean all Muslims are like this. In fact, most Muslims are lovely because the Qur'an says they should care for humanity:


"Whoever kills an innocent person, it is as if he has killed all of humanity"

- Qur'an 5:32

See what I mean? ISIS and Al-Qaeda aren't Muslims. They're wackos who believe that their actions please Allah whereas it will likely shame him.

I should point out that it has turned more people against Syrian migrants in fear of anyone of them being a terrorist. Ok I'm just going to say this but to those right-wing people who believe that migrants are a swarm or something along those lines: shut up. They're people for crying out loud and most of them are innocent civilians who are desperate to find safety because life in Syria is basically Hell. Besides, migrants can be beneficial because they boost the economy by taking the jobs no-one wants. "But they're taking our jobs" you may say, well do you want to work in a newsagents? Or be a cleaner? Or handpick butternut squash (a job that I've seen in a documentary about migration)? Thought not. Honestly, if you assume that all migrants are terrorists or that they're taking over the country then frankly, stop believing a word UKIP says, they base their views on false statistics anyway.

Another worrying response goes something like this: "Fight back against these terrorist pieces of scum! Let's go to war against them!" Ok I may be paraphrasing but you get the idea. In fairness that is a natural response, you're angry at ISIS for what they've done I get that. But can you actually use your brain and think about the negatives of war (of which there are many)? Because OF COURSE it is a good idea to send your loved ones off to fight in a war in which they are likely to die in (!). Seriously? Have you guys learned NOTHING from WW1, WW2, and Afghanistan? If you seriously believe that war is the best option, try telling what I've said above to families whose father or older brother died in battle. I'm sure they'll be happy to hear you say that (!). Honestly, war isn't even the best option. I think the Doctor Who episode 'The Zygon Inversion' (which drew parallels to ISIS) said it best during Peter Capaldi's speech near the end:

 "It's always the same. When you fire that first shot, no matter how right you feel, you have no idea who's going to die! You don't know whose children are going to scream and burn; how many hearts will be broken; how many lives shattered; how much blood will spill before everybody does what they were always going to have to do from the very beginning! SIT. DOWN. AND TALK!" 

- Peter Capaldi as the Twelfth Doctor

War always ends by talking so why not cut out the middle man? My point is that yes, ISIS are evil, but you can't get angry at all the Syrians and all the Muslims for the actions of the splinter group. Heck even anger at the splinter group will cause more harm than good! What happened in Paris was terrible yes but we need to keep it together! Anger and paranoia is exactly what ISIS want but we need to stand strong and retain our respect towards humanity rather than be racist towards migrants and Muslims.

To everyone against migration and ISIS, especially the government if they actually read this: just calm down please! Find the right solution to these things, forgive them even, just for goodness sakes, don't start a war! Or else what happened in Paris will happen everywhere. 


#keepthepeace

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well! 




Saturday, 31 October 2015

Halloween is EEEEEEEEEEEEVIL!

Ah Halloween! Such a lovely holiday celebrating all things evil and scary! Seriously, why are we celebrating this again? It went from the eve to a Christian feast (to my knowledge) to a celebration involving the flipping Devil! I don't get it! Why does Halloween have to be so scary? And could it be that what you're celebrating is actually dodgy? Well I'm here to tell you why I don't like the current form of All Hallows Eve.

Firstly, the monsters. Why would you allow kids to dress up as terrifying contraptions such as Dracula and Zombies? That's going to scare the living daylights out of people! It's actually kind of unpleasant to look at, seeing children dressed as their nightmares! Also, as a Christian, I'm kind of uncomfortable with the fact that Witches and the DEVIL are available costumes! I mean people flipped out when Asda and Tesco were selling mental patient Halloween costumes so why aren't they freaking out at costumes that seem to promote Witchcraft and Satanism! I mean at least Dracula and Frankenstein's monster were fictional characters but Witches and Satan as costumes is messed up!

Secondly, the very idea of Trick or Treating is just dumb. So you mean to tell me that, even though it is discouraged 364 other days of the year, kids can go up to strangers houses and ask for sweets. Does that not sound wrong to you? Not to mention, not all of them are with adults so essentially, they're walking in the dark, unprotected and visiting strangers! To the parents of those children: ARE YOU INSANE??? If you have to let your kids go Trick or Treating then at least go with them! I'd be worried sick if I was their parent. Not to mention, the people giving away the sweets may be terrified of the costumes as some of them can be based off horror movies that even I (at the age of 17) aren't allowed to watch. For example, I remember one year, one kid dressed up as the killer from Scream!

Building on that, the phrase 'Trick or Treat' is essentially blackmail. It means "Give us your sweets or we'll play a trick on you!" That's a bit mean. Heck in context Trick or Treating doesn't make sense. Its origins suggested that 'Trick-or-Treaters' asked for food in exchange for poems and the reason why they dressed up as nasty things was because they were impersonating them to scare them off. Ok firstly, where does the trick come from? Secondly, the idea of dressing up came from an outdated superstition and I thought a science based society has grown beyond that and lastly, if people dress up to protect themselves from whoever they dress up as THEN WHY THE FLYING DALEK DO THEY DRESS UP AS FICTIONAL CHARACTERS?!!

Yeesh the traditions of this holiday do not make much sense! Another odd thing is, people use that time to gain sweets and dress up... can't you do that at any other point in the year? There's thousands of conventions that encourage cosplay and even more sweet shops! There's nothing stopping you from doing it all year round! Same with watching horror films! I wouldn't recommend it unless you like scary and messed up things but won't it have the same effect all year round (provided you watch them at dark)? And don't say "You'll have the full effect at the scariest day of the year" because you just trained yourself to be scared on Halloween!


In breaking down this holiday, it's nasty, it's dodgy and it makes little sense. So why do we celebrate it? Well my guess is that human beings like being scared so they celebrate that love for fear with the All Hallows Eve origins as an excuse. Would I ever celebrate it? Maybe but I would take out all things scary and prove that Halloween can be nice. After all, its origins came from the eve of All Saints Day which is a celebration of all things good rather than all things evil. Happy All Hallows Eve everyone!

And that concludes this thought from an autistic mind. What do you think about this? Do you have any questions? Let me know in the comments below, be sure to like my Facebook page 'Joel Mole' for more blogs and share this around to spread the word. Thank you for reading this and until the next time: fare thee well!